Comments | offermeescape: the one screaming out..

offermeescape

the one screaming out..

May 02, 2009 17:08

You know, I really sometimes despise being adult. Okay, I don't mean in relation to maturity or having a bigger perspective on how life works and how the world works.. no, what I really mean is the required flow of conversation that occurs so much at social events. It's frustrating to have a conversation with somebody and feel like everything is ( Read more... )

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ghostmeat May 5 2009, 01:06:50 UTC

word.

that's why i rarely attend family or work fuctions. and why most of the friends i have are friends i made when i wasn't an adult.

offermeescape May 6 2009, 00:04:23 UTC

same here eh? i have hardly made any friends once i passed the age of 25.. :(

carnivalnights May 23 2009, 20:13:39 UTC

That is why I am extremely selective about where I hang out and whom I hang out with. You may have time to claw your way through that socially declining jungle, but I would just rather not deal with it at all. This is why I would rather hang out with one or two people rather than go to a bar or party where it takes too much time to comb through the garbage to get to the good stuff. That is really a waste of my time.

Unfortunately, it takes a lot of time and effort to find people that indulge in being themselves and speaking their minds.

offermeescape May 23 2009, 20:37:46 UTC

It's a shame, I guess. Even well into my adulthood, connections remain rare.

carnivalnights May 23 2009, 21:55:56 UTC

You need to remain open, regardless of your experiences. And not just open but proactive. You cannot expect people and connections to come to you; you have to go out looking for them, even in places you feel like you are against (e.g. the Internet--there is no shame in meeting someone offline if you feel you really connect with them; that is how I met one of my dearest and closest teenagehood friends, Jay). If someone does not pick up the phone to call you, you make the first move. If you are only ever the one making the first move, move on. And don't go back to people who have hurt you in the past and whom you have given several chances to already; life is too short. There are a lot of people out there who are comfortable being themselves and can carry interesting and deep conversations... but you are not always going to find those people at parties or bars. You need to have more than two places to find people, and you need to give people a good chance before moving on, before writing them off as uninteresting. And I still believe ( ... )