Comments | ogiwij: sup don horbus

ogiwij

sup don horbus

Jul 11, 2005 00:00

My Dad lives ~the~ "American Dream", founded in the 50's. He also thinks that the "American Dream" is the only way of happiness that his children can succumb to and they are !stupid for not going down that path. He believes that love is not selfless and should be returned with admiration and respect. He and I obviously don't see eye-to-eye, and ( Read more... )

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aviolentrage July 11 2005, 11:33:45 UTC

That sounds frustrating. I'm sure you feel some pressure to please your dad for all he's done--helping you out with college is a pretty substantial favor--but at the same time, you're an adult. You have your own path to follow, and if the pricetag of his assistance is that you can't follow that path, that's a pretty hefty pricetag ( ... )

marked_genius July 11 2005, 14:04:58 UTC

I totally get where you're coming from. Sometimes their help just seems like a big iron collar to chain you to some sort of unspoken reciprocity: I pay for this, you in turn _____. The good ol' guilt trip will get us every time I tell ya.

Big choices on the horizon for us near adults. Our dads our basically the same kind of guy. Give me a ring if he's stressing you out too much. I'm sure we can see eye-to-eye.

radanax July 11 2005, 17:15:31 UTC

be careful of spite :/

miownnightmare July 12 2005, 05:03:35 UTC

don my darling we are sort of in the same boat...and it would be horrible if you were not to return to school i would miss you terribly...parents are going to be parents as much as that sux and apparently know more than we think (so my dad tells me) which i dont doubt but they just forget sometimes what its like...i miss you and i cant wait to see you in a month and hopefully u come back and i do get to see you!!!!!!!!

mrcheapass July 12 2005, 18:51:41 UTC

im always here for ya mang, glad we could talk it over in person last night. i agree with you DON HORBUS. love is something that allows you to give without wanting or expecting something in return. you do give stuff in return such as your presence, you calling over there to see how hes doing, working hard around the house, helping him out from time to time, etc. but those things i guess werent up to his "standards" for something in return. theres nothing wrong with your views he just doesnt understand them because they arent "his" views too. there is just a conflict of interest. you gotta do whats best for you and you are and thats all you can do. im with you all the way man. FIGHT THE POWER BROTHER but just be careful, haha.