Harry's Curse

[ohanadreams]

So did we really decide after viewing "When Harry Met Sally" that men and women can not in fact ever be friends. For those who want to review the conversation here it is:

Billy Crystal (Harry Burns): You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Meg Ryan (Sally Albright): Why not?
Billy Crystal (Harry): What I'm saying is - and this is not

Comments

[peachpengin]

Well evidently my brain has rotted in studying for the LSATs because the first thing I noticed is the extreme language. If nothing else, it's impossible to say that a guy and a girl being friends can never happen because sex gets in the way because even one case of a guy and a girl being friends and not wanting to sleep with each other would disprove that. It's also important to note that you put no specifications in as to the relationship involved between the man and women in question. Are you saying I can't be friends with my cousin or a 10 year boy because sex would get in the way? Either one of those two situations could disprove your theory

[ohanadreams]

I think the purpose of this post was to point out that things (attraction for example) that get in the way of friendship is actually not them getting in the way but one of the individuals citing it as a reason not to be friends. Though I would like to point out that being friends with a cousin and a 10 year old boy is considered an asexual relationship (as in most people would never consider sleeping with either one of them) and I'm not saying you can't be friends with them because it might get in the way. I'm saying is that it appears to be a popular opinion that you in fact can not be true friends with a person where there is the possibility of one of them being sexually attracted to the other. I was trying to point out that this is generalized and that friendships are based upon many different things. I wasn't trying to deal in absolutes at all. I think the ideology behind the concept of friends is a very personal matter and I said as such with the last line

[peachpengin]

Hah, my response was partially in response to the original arguement which I think is absurd and frankly kinda insulting.

It's really interesting I think about the different definitions of things, friendship, attractiveness, etc. If I ever take a while to take too long to reply it's because I think too much.

As for other stuff, I took the LSAT on Monday and should get my score back in three weeks. I'm hoping it's not too sucky so I don't have to spend money on the test in September. Did you get the job you interviewed for? I miss you too. I thought about all the fun the three of us had in Classical/Regular Japanese the other day and it made me a little sad that it was all over. :(