lauren's company provides benefits on what seems to be an arbitrary (yet incredibly generous) basis. so i'm covered. even though we're not legally married and we don't have any other documents to prove we've been together. i haven't gotten on that shit yet since i'm out of province and a student but hope to when i get back so i can get physio covered in case i don't get my own coverage right away.
No. I qualify for state assistance because I receive disability, but it was a nightmare to deal with when I first moved here & I can't handle stuff like that. I will have to soldier through it this time.
first & foremost, i'm really sorry to hear this -- i know what a huge problem this is for you.
second, i think this is one of the big issues that the same-sex marriage movement has not addressed at all, & really needs to, if we're going to ensure that all people/families/relationships can access benefits & protections. in massachusetts, after they legalized same-sex marriage, lots of corporations eliminated their DP benefits programs (or made them more expensive to access than marital benefits), because they just assumed everyone should/could get married instead. it's part of a larger push for marriage as THE option, & it makes me furious. 'cause then lots of people (like you) get screwed.
I agree. Why should anyone have to get married to benefit from services that should be available to anyone in a committed relationship? Regardless of gender. Ignoring the fact that I think we should have universal healthcare for all, period. While it's true that I am in a heterosexual relationship & therefore it is reasonably expected that I can get married, no problem, it actually is a problem for so many reasons. My reasons against legally marrying B are more than just losing all or part of my SSI. It's important to me to rebel against the idea of marriage as the ultimate expression of a lasting, committed relationship. It is my little form of personal protest against anyone (government, family, corporations, what/whomever) sticking their nose where it doesn't belong.
Like Toby said, it's the assumption that because we're a hetero couple we can just get married legally, so there's no need to include our type of relationship in their insurance plan. But it's not that easy.
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lauren's company provides benefits on what seems to be an arbitrary (yet incredibly generous) basis. so i'm covered. even though we're not legally married and we don't have any other documents to prove we've been together. i haven't gotten on that shit yet since i'm out of province and a student but hope to when i get back so i can get physio covered in case i don't get my own coverage right away.
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second, i think this is one of the big issues that the same-sex marriage movement has not addressed at all, & really needs to, if we're going to ensure that all people/families/relationships can access benefits & protections. in massachusetts, after they legalized same-sex marriage, lots of corporations eliminated their DP benefits programs (or made them more expensive to access than marital benefits), because they just assumed everyone should/could get married instead. it's part of a larger push for marriage as THE option, & it makes me furious. 'cause then lots of people (like you) get screwed.
(...sorry for the rant. it was in solidarity.)
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While it's true that I am in a heterosexual relationship & therefore it is reasonably expected that I can get married, no problem, it actually is a problem for so many reasons. My reasons against legally marrying B are more than just losing all or part of my SSI. It's important to me to rebel against the idea of marriage as the ultimate expression of a lasting, committed relationship. It is my little form of personal protest against anyone (government, family, corporations, what/whomever) sticking their nose where it doesn't belong.
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