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oid

The 11th Comandment

Jan 21, 2006 08:59

Why is it that when we look at ourselves we can only see our flaws? Are we really as pathetic as we see ourselves? Ugly? Fat? Old ( Read more... )

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warmglimmer January 21 2006, 17:28:10 UTC

My friends have always been truthful with me, as far as I know. It's funny though, when you love someone their physical flaws fade away. I don't notice those things about them anymore, I think they are beautiful for different reasons.

I think everyone feels the same way about themselves. We all have bad days where we think we look old and fat and ugly. I have days when I feel really pretty then I look at the rest of my body and the illusion is shattered.

Anyway...I think you are radiant, Becca.

nigelstattoo January 21 2006, 18:02:36 UTC

Self fullfillinf prophesy has always been my worst enemy. I was told my whole life I was ugly, worthless, bad, dumb, unlovable, so therefore, it is true.

oid January 21 2006, 18:41:07 UTC

You are none of those things Jen.

nigelstattoo January 21 2006, 22:59:27 UTC

Thank you. But you posed the question and therein lies your answer. AT least with me.
Now I'm going to quote you in my own LJ.

warmglimmer January 21 2006, 22:16:25 UTC

Jen sweetie you are NONE of those. You are one of the most beautiful, caring, loving people I have ever known.

girl_panic January 21 2006, 21:07:21 UTC

Echoing some of what Kiki said, I have times where I look in the mirror and think I am beautiful and sexy, but other times I see nothing but my flaws and feel hideous. Society teaches us that we need to look a very specific way, and we are programmed to think that anything different is not attractive. It's tough overcoming that way of thinking, but personally, I think beauty can be found in so many variations, and focusing on the positives is much healthier. The more you focus on what you don't like, the worse you'll feel about yourself.

"Thou shall lie to your girlfriends about how they really look"

I really try not to do that myself. I will be honest with my close friends about whether or not a certain color or outfit suits them, but I would never insult them or criticize the things that they can't control, like the shape of their nose. But like Kiki said, the more you love a person, the less likely are you to see them as unattractive. Again, I see beauty in all sorts of variations of people.