November 30th: A rather awesome day.

[oldefool]

Well, it's been the kind of day, for me, that doesn't come along very often in life. In fact, it comes about ONCE. And only if you're past seventy.

Maybe that doesn't even cover it. It's been a triple-feature day, which shouldn't happen even if you're past seventy! Not all bundled together, anyway. Maybe it's the kind of day that doesn't even

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[sin_agua]

If your love for your wife was so significant, why were you unable to "fulfill" yourself "in the context of that marriage"?

I'm not trying to be critical, I'm just genuinely curious about how people's minds work, especially where relationships are concerned.

[oldefool]

Actually, I'm glad you asked. It helps me to clarify my own impressions. First off, though, realize the impossibility of condensing fifteen years of interaction into the few words of a posting. I was as careful as I could be, though, with my wording of it

[flickering_lite]

I tend to think that anything, any combination of things, seems possible in the youthful years. But each choice we make along the way closes off options that are not given much weight at the time. Ultimately, though, they begin to add up. And sometimes (or perhaps for some people) the foreclosed choices become too heavy to carry. And when life becomes miserable, on that account, just about everything in it is contaminated with the miserability....

interesting it made me think.
and damn it you are not old! This is my poor mothers problem. She thought she was old at 30, began to dress old, to think old.
you still have MANY years ahead of you sir. And I am sure love will be a great part of it. :)

[oldefool]

Thank you, my sweet friend, it's good to hear that from you. The funny part of it is that inside my head I totally agree with you. Once I get beyond my morning groans -and with allowances for the way I've gradually slowed down- I don't 'act my age' at all. And living without a car, I still get around pretty well on my own two feet. But nature is nature, and it can only be compromised just so far.

Love, yes, I have little doubt about it; but relationship . . . well... I may not actually want it any longer, but my hormones can't quite let go of the idea. (As you've probably realized :)

[nordic_thora]

I don't really have a substantive comment to make here - I just wanted you to know I read this post, and that it touched me.

It certainly IS strange, the way life unfolds...

[elsie777]

I love your posts (and comments). You always make me think.

[oldefool]

Well, thank you, Lisa. Thinking is almost the next best thing to feeling good. (Isn't it?). I mean, as long as it isn't something you have to figure out :)

[flickering_lite]

hello!
I wanted to ask if you could think of some interesting new user names for my lj! Flickering_lite is so depressing and I wish to change it by the end of the year. I ask you, only because I think that you are quite clever! So any suggestion would be such a lovely thing!

[oldefool]

You honor me! I shall give it some thought, and let you know.

Meanwhile, try this site for a casual pic of me, which I just got through hoisting. http://hitchwiki.org/User:Irvthom

[flickering_lite]

ohhhhssssss!!!! well aint you a sweetie pie!!

[oldefool]

Okay, here's three possibilities that I came up with last night. I was just focusing on you, you know, and they emerged . . . I'll keep the channel open.

In their order of appearance...

1. Candied_Cookie

2. Hidden_Treats

3. Think_about_me

[le_kisse]

I was married 12 years, we still are close. I wonder the same damn things you do - even with the current lover in my life.
I think that magic love, those magic moments, only happen once. The stuff after is wonderful and nice - the relationships that is - but that one magic moment, only once Irv.

Love.