Strange Friendship

[olekuli]

I have a friend, rather close one considering the depth of information we share with each other. Yet recently I am feeling more and more as our friendship became one sided where I would call, I would share some info, I would invite, I would arrange, I would offer help, yet her reply is rather stiff and short. Sometimes if I put some extra effort I

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[tek_cat]

If she is going through a rough patch, I would let her be and remind myself that it's not about me, it's about her. She is dealing with problems and it has not to do with me doing something wrong. Don't give advice, just be there.

Most of the time when people go through difficulties in their life they do not want an advice, they want you to listen and state that you understand. Surprisenly, lots of people stay in "boloto" for a long time. They whine and do nothing (or so it seems). Well, their choice.

[olekuli]

O'K, I agree, but what I am questioning is should I keep calling her first? trying to invite her somewhere? razgovorit v konze konzov? I've been doing this for some time now and it finally feels wrong (to me). Is she getting used to such arrangement. Recently it feels like I am calling ee velichestvo the queen to find out how she is. Now I wonder if she just uses the boloto of her life to get extra attention? Blin, nu chto za dela takie.

[tek_cat]

Ну попробуй звонить реже. Некоторые дружбы себя исчерпывают, некоторые берут перерыв и по новой функционируют.