this comment is interesting to me, because i have heard people whining it before that vitriol is a backlash against the social privileges afforded to parents
My interpretation of the comment is that a lot of gen Xers that did not have kids are confused about why they aren't successful or have a stunning career.
I have a rather harsh response. Gee, maybe it is the fact that you went back packing through europe when other parents of your same peer group were working their ass off??? they think we have privilege? On the contrary, employrs are less likely to hire and promote a parent because things come up like puking at school or doctors appointments. parents get called away from work more often.
oh maybe they are referring to the tax credit of having a child?? that won't even cover the private lessons.
stop whining, people. When you were punking it out in rental houses parents were working their asses off because *they were scared*.
FEAR motivates parents and that not the same as privelege
I get what you're saying. Having kids forces you to grow up and be responsible whether you like it or not :)
I believe the 'social privileges' refer more to things like "when are you going to have a family of your own?" and other prevailing attitudes that suggest that no one can possibly be complete without reproducing.
I've also heard it suggested that one cannot POSSIBLY be mature until they've had kids. And yanno, those of us without kids who do work hard for what we have (even if we don't necessarily have stunning careers) may resent that just a tiny bit.
When I was doing some online dating I was asked if I didn't have any children because I was not able to. When I answered no, that actually I'm fertile as teh Napa Valley, I was met with some (but not alot) of oh, really. It seemed like a new concept. This is from a portion of society who tend to have a lot of kids.
But in the circles we run in it is perfectly normal for people to not have children. I also run into people with children who think I don't like kids, when I do, love them. They are a hoot. Like you said it is a hard job, so don't be shocked some of us CHOSE not to take on that job. Well put Sister.
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that vitriol is a backlash against the social privileges afforded to parents
My interpretation of the comment is that a lot of gen Xers that did not have kids are confused about why they aren't successful or have a stunning career.
I have a rather harsh response.
Gee, maybe it is the fact that you went back packing through europe when other parents of your same peer group were working their ass off???
they think we have privilege? On the contrary, employrs are less likely to hire and promote a parent because things come up like puking at school or doctors appointments. parents get called away from work more often.
oh maybe they are referring to the tax credit of having a child?? that won't even cover the private lessons.
stop whining, people. When you were punking it out in rental houses parents were working their asses off because *they were scared*.
FEAR motivates parents and that not the same as privelege
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I believe the 'social privileges' refer more to things like "when are you going to have a family of your own?" and other prevailing attitudes that suggest that no one can possibly be complete without reproducing.
I've also heard it suggested that one cannot POSSIBLY be mature until they've had kids. And yanno, those of us without kids who do work hard for what we have (even if we don't necessarily have stunning careers) may resent that just a tiny bit.
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"Oh that's too bad"
seriously
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But in the circles we run in it is perfectly normal for people to not have children. I also run into people with children who think I don't like kids, when I do, love them. They are a hoot. Like you said it is a hard job, so don't be shocked some of us CHOSE not to take on that job. Well put Sister.
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