Comments | onagraceous: the current family situation

onagraceous

the current family situation

Jul 09, 2004 07:30

I talked to my grandmom about Mark (my bro who got married). Funny how through all that was said between us nothing new was figured out. I'm still not sure that she understands my POV about it at all. Basically, I am completely resentful of the fact that our family is so close-minded, that the individuals in the family tend to be so sensitive, ( Read more... )

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winsomedreamer July 9 2004, 08:26:02 UTC

I think your main point is something we should all strive to be like. I don't think I've ever told you, but I truly admire you Ann...

About the family thing, all you can really do is support your brother it seems. Everyone has their idea of what is right in this situation, and without his family behind him, your opinion and encouragement probably means the world to him.

onagraceous July 9 2004, 08:30:09 UTC

Thank you, Sarah.

And yes, I plan to just be there for him.

onagraceous July 9 2004, 08:27:45 UTC

You know, on second thought, I think maybe my grandmom does understand my POV, but that doesn't make her able to act the same way that I do. I guess that's natural. Still, I can't say that the way my family reacts to situations in the family doesn't bother me.

jupgrrl July 9 2004, 08:28:46 UTC

I am astonished that an entire family can maintain that kind of attitude. Certainly, all families have weak points and black sheep, but that level of pettiness- I haven't encountered it before, and reading this made me feel fortunate.

I don't think that you sounded self-righteous. I agree with you- being judgemental is an all too natural human trait, but trying to avoid it as much as possible is extremely important. Most people manage to find a happy medium between their natural tendency to judge people and staying completely neutral on a subject, but your family hasn't seemed to reach that point.

In fact, I'm not at all surprised that your brother went away and married her. I certainly wouldn't want to marry someone in that atmosphere.

onagraceous July 9 2004, 08:34:13 UTC

:/ Yes, my family is quite bad. However, I do know another family that is nearly as bad, at least when it comes to interracial situations and the subject of dating. My best friend's family is just as petty when it comes to these subjects. However (not that this justifies it), with them it is more cultural than anything else. They are Chinese, and they have very specific views on what should be accepted in courtship due to their traditions. But my friend often makes the point that yes, she is Chinese, but she is also an American. Basically, they could care less about Americanization when it comes to dating...

vegas_gal96 July 9 2004, 10:59:17 UTC

You wrote a lot! hahaha. You never write that much, Ann! hehee.

I hope your family can find a place in their heart to accept your brother's new marriage. Just support him and be there for him if he needs you. Sounds like you are going to be supportive.

I like Sarah admire you. heehe. You are awesome!

I don't think you sounded self-righteous either. No one is perfect. You are an amazing person and your ability to accept people is yet another reason we shoudl admire you.