A requiem and a question...

[onfrozenpond]

Even though I am a Christian, and do believe in life after death, I must confess that the thought of death still scares me, and if someone who is close to me or once was close to me dies, I have a hard time talking about it. I've bottled this up for almost a month now. I didn't want to write about this here because no one who reads this page would

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[cloudmx]

fear of the unknooooooooooown.

i guess we'll never know until it's in our experience log.

[onfrozenpond]

Sounds like the name of an album...

[cloudmx]

Yeah, it's been done.

Twice, technically.

but in regards to your post, death just feels like a full-stop. you have so much to do, so many people to deal with--if you were to die, then your afterlife wouldn't feel very accomplished.

[onfrozenpond]

Hmm...I was right.

You make a very excellent point. Your spirit would be like "Aw, man, I had so much more left to do...people to see...etc etc." and you would feel wanting to do more. Like Kevin...there is so much more he could have done to help those kids who looked up to him.

[jadedshock]

Sorry to hear about your friend. :(

And yeah, I think it's the fact that we don't know exactly what's going to happen when we die, and know that what we are familiar with is going to end, is what's scary. The place you're going to (hopefully for all of us) is supposed to be infinitely better but we won't know it really, until we're there. We just need to believe in it for now.

[onfrozenpond]

Thanks for your condolences. I wanted to talk with you about this several times in the last couple weeks but I have not had the nerve to because it was depressing.

You make a good point as well, as we do not KNOW what will happen, but we BELIEVE what will happen after we die. Well said. My belief in that has not been shaken. But the sad part is he had so much more to do and be a great role model for the kids in his ministry. Pray for his soul as he was a good man.

Tempus Fugit...memento mori.

[zellie_bean]

I think it's like change....... change is scary. You may gain a lot, but you also lose a lot. If you die before family, you lose all those face to face daily moments but presumably you gain a place in Heaven... as great as Heaven is meant to be it's not a wife, or a daughter, or a friend. But it's still Heaven and who knows what that might be like, conscious or not, would you even remember what you're missing? Or would you be content in waiting for them to join you?

[onfrozenpond]

Another very good point. Reminds me of Spawn a bit.

[22acaciaave]

Dude, I get worried about death all the time. Sometimes it's the dying itself thing, sometimes it's the whole "eternity" thing. Nothing to be ashamed of.