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[onlyconnect_83]

It's been a really tumultuous week for me. On Monday night I broke up with Joel, my boyfriend of over a year. The breakup discussion/fight got a little heated for awhile, although we agreed that we wanted to remain friends. Then last night we hung out, talked things over, and decided to get back together. We're going to take things more slowly this

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[iamashamed]

first of, yay<3

I still need to learn a lot of what you're talking about, and idk, I feel like you kind of indirectly help with that, by writing about your love life/break ups and everything.I just think you handle it all very well, and it inspires me to do the same. Basically, you're awesome.

[onlyconnect_83]

Awww, honey, that is a very sweet thing to say. If my writing about my drama helps you or anyone at all, then at least it's good for more than just my venting/whining! And don't be hard on yourself for not having learned this stuff yet...I'm quite a bit older than you and I'm still learning this stuff.

Love you, and you're awesome too!

[girlcameralife]

I am SO glad you wrote this. I'm right there with you (except single, haha).

In my last relationship (lasted about 8 months) I did not write AT ALL, and hardly did anything I used to be so passionate about. When I'm single, I know exactly who I am and can stay true to myself, but in a relationship, I still don't know how to keep that independence. My last relationship was so horrible at the right time in my life that I think I've finally learned my lessons... or at least realized them. I'm the type of person who, while I love being alone, if I find someone I love, I want to be with them all the time. And now I realize I need to loosen my hold and give us both space to be ourselves because that will benefit us both more.

Now I'm just taking time to make sure I *really* learned/believe that before I jump into anything else. It was great to read it from someone else, because it's easier for me to listen that way, instead of trusting myself.

[onlyconnect_83]

Like I said to iamashamed, I'm so glad that others have been able to get something out of my relationship ramblings! LOL.

And you have no idea how much relief I feel as well to know that I'm not alone in struggling with the whole individuality/relationship issue! I'm the type of person who, while I love being alone, if I find someone I love, I want to be with them all the time. -- Girl, that is me to a T. *fist bumps*

I hope we both can get better at learning and implementing this lesson. Good luck to you in your next relationship...and in the meantime, enjoy being single and working on yourself.