It’s no fun being the invisible lesbian

Nov 06, 2009 12:31

By Jennifer Vanasco Jennifer.Vanasco@gmail.com ( Read more... )

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heartbeats_hurt November 6 2009, 19:40:27 UTC
No one ever thinks I'm a lesbian but at this point I don't even put in the extra effort to make it seem like I'm gay. If you don't think I'm gay when I'm holding my girlfriends hand and walking around with a bunch of lesbians YOU FAIL.

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heartbeats_hurt November 6 2009, 19:42:09 UTC
FML I thought this was your personal journal. Stop tricking me.

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thebigbadbutch November 6 2009, 19:43:56 UTC
Sorry I wasn't trying to be a trickster. I love your icon though :D

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thebigbadbutch November 6 2009, 19:43:27 UTC
You are too pretty to be a lesbian :P

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notacrnflkgirl November 6 2009, 20:17:48 UTC
I'm a New Yorker, and I recently flew to Missouri to meet a queer ~lady friend~. We shared a hotel room and got some, uh, lovely looks. I took a Bible tract from the check-in counter and hoped that placated their worries. :S

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thebigbadbutch November 12 2009, 06:37:51 UTC
Whenever I see women with the rainbow stuff I just think they are a straight ally or really enjoy rainbows. Now I feel like a jerk.

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notacrnflkgirl November 6 2009, 20:10:00 UTC
I'm a femme. I bought a pink triangle pin years ago and wore it on my lapel, but God knows where that went. I think my desk ate it.

When I go out with my friends, they're usually the first to bring my sexual orientation up (which is, uh, not always cool), and our conversations get progressively louder throughout the night, so anyone in a mile radius knows how I swing.

When I go out without them, that's different. I'm sure the good folks at the grocery store think I'm Something That Isn't Straight or Normal, what with my lack of makeup and forested legs, but who knows how many of them are assuming correctly? I'm single, so I'm not holding another woman's hand. Bookstores and libraries are easy, though: I gravitate toward the queer stuff.

I haven't been single and looking in so long that I tend to forget that My Lesbian Identity may be undetectable to most. Now that Catherine got her groove back, though, it's painfully apparent. Luckily, if I do find that pin, I feel relatively safe where I'm living to put it back on, so it's an easy ( ... )

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fabby November 6 2009, 20:21:52 UTC
Oh yeah. No one ever suspects I'm gay. I'm expecting a baby in December with my lovely wife (we've been together for 15 years), so that should further confuse the issue. Not that I really care. It's kind of fun to blow people's minds by throwing it out there. They think they can spot us!

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thebigbadbutch October 25 2010, 02:56:45 UTC
Is that your baby? He does not look happy lol

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sunrooms November 6 2009, 20:28:02 UTC
At first glance, women can never tell I'm gay... but men always know. I don't know what the deal with that is?

I hang out with a bunch of lesbians, and I think it would be obvious to anyone paying attention, but I guess not.

It can be frustrating at times, but for the most part I try not to let it bother me. I feel as if the LGBT community sometimes puts up hurdles within the community.. and at times I feel more judged by fellow queers than by straight folks.

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whitewatergirl January 27 2010, 05:12:17 UTC
Straight men or gay/bi men?

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sunrooms January 27 2010, 05:29:05 UTC
Both

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