No one ever thinks I'm gay. I really hate people assuming I'm straight. The worst thing about it is that people always talk like there's not a queer in the room, and they'll say the most ignorant fucking things. I'm just thinking, "You realize anyone in here could be queer, right?"
Guys always refuse to believe I'm a dyke, also. Even after I tell them multiple times, they tend to keep hitting on me/demanding an explanation why I can't just try them out. I think part of the reason for that is because I look femme.
haha. i love when people i kind of know come to me and tell me about the lesbian they met and how they were trying not to be awkward blahblahblah. i let them tell me their story and don't tell them that i like girls too...that would be awkward for them, haha.
but yeah, no one knows i'm gay even when i have fashion mullet type hair going and am wearing black skinnies, hightops, and an AA deep v at a gay club.
I feel the same way! I feel like I need to dress or have my hair a certain way for people to recognize that I also "belong". I grew out my hair this past year for the first time since I was younger, and it's been funny the response I've gotten. I was out at a gay club with lots of lesbian friends (the only one with longer hair) and a girl asked me if I was straight. It's frustrating.
I am high femme, no one thinks i am gay, in fact most gay people that i have known for years insist that i cannot be gay at all!
I really don't care, although i did when i was younger, i guess my friends not questioning my sexuality is more important that some bunch of stereotypes not believing me. I have no need to convince people of my sexual orientation either and i am not looking to make new friends
Add me to the list of femme and frustratingly invisible. I've flirted hardcore with cute obviously queer women and they just dismiss me. \
I do get hit on by men a lot (yay) and when I do get hit on by women, it's by femmes. That's the part I don't get - the femmes (especially but not only) friends hit on me, but I'm not attracted to them at all. I like andro to butch women. Sigh.
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Nobody could tell I like girls just from looking at me, that's for sure. It makes my (non-existing) love life difficult. (=_=)
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Guys always refuse to believe I'm a dyke, also. Even after I tell them multiple times, they tend to keep hitting on me/demanding an explanation why I can't just try them out. I think part of the reason for that is because I look femme.
Oh invisible lesbianism. sigh
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but yeah, no one knows i'm gay even when i have fashion mullet type hair going and am wearing black skinnies, hightops, and an AA deep v at a gay club.
what can ya do.
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I really don't care, although i did when i was younger, i guess my friends not questioning my sexuality is more important that some bunch of stereotypes not believing me. I have no need to convince people of my sexual orientation either and i am not looking to make new friends
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I do get hit on by men a lot (yay) and when I do get hit on by women, it's by femmes. That's the part I don't get - the femmes (especially but not only) friends hit on me, but I'm not attracted to them at all. I like andro to butch women. Sigh.
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