dreaming beyond babies

[orangemelonade]

So Kate had her twin girls (Davia and Shaelyn) twelve days ago. Lori and I went to visit them last Saturday. I held them both, youngest humans I've ever held. Up until last year (when Vern and Angie's daughter Kali was born) I had a "six month" rule...I held Kali when she was just over a month old. Davia and Shaelyn are much smaller, seemingly

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[shiromaguro]

you know, I totally agree with all points here... but at some point once I turned 24/25 my ovaries took on a life of their own. I know, logically, that there are too many people in the world and I don't need to add to the problem. I know that I can just as easily expend that "maternal" energy on kids that are already here and need help. I know that there are so many things I want to do and a child just doesn't fit into that equation.

but whenever I get around a baby it's like something from my abdomen detaches from my body and starts soaring through the air. it's really weird to have your head want one thing and your body another!

[perstefani]

I think the biggest argument I've heard for having babies of your own is that you have a completely fresh start at raising a being who understands. You know what went into the batch, so you know if you have a better likelihood of raising an intelligent and enlightened child.

You inspired me to think more in depth about this subject here.

hmmm

[sixty4k]

When I see/interact with babies and kids, my faith in... life, future, love, humanity is refreshed. Here are the possibilities, the wonders, the discoverers of tomorrow's miracles, and in that, I find a reason to be, to keep going, to continue to struggle.

I know that for me, having children (biological or adoptive) is not a yes or no question, simply one of when.

Ideally I'd like to be a househusband (or the unmarried equivelent)

Funny how we all mix and match the expected gender roles.

[greenplaid]

My mom consistently hints about grandchildren. It's sad because our family is the epitome of working dysfunction, and I think she just wants a touch of normality. However, spawning me dashed all hopes of that, and being her only child, it's up to me to bear her grandchildren.

No. As much as I love my mother, no.

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[tracyrenae]

I am so with you on the baby thing... I'm sure we've discussed this before. But I've noticed, being around my sister's baby, how many women talk about wanting one while they're holding her. That thought has never crossed my mind while holding a baby. I'm glad my sister had one (and will probably have more), and I love my friends' kids... but that maternal thing just doesn't happen for me. I wonder if the 'I want one' thing is instinctive or conditioned... hmm. ?

I know this is old stuff I'm replying to here... but I only just discovered your journal! ;)