i don't think it's jaded to think the spark of attraction is the key in that type of situation...usually that sets up being able to really, really talk to someone on an intimate level....haha---maybe i'm jaded!!
i would ask the last book read...usually it's a fairly revealing question...
I think I look at it as being jaded because basically I'm going in with the attitude that every guy there is looking for a hottie, and it won't really matter what I say in the end... in the end it will be did they think I was cute or not? Going in with that attitude from the start is probably not the most positive, open/receptive way to go about it. ;)
Yes, books... good point. but what will I do if he replies, "I love me a good Ron Hubbard, don't you?"
funny, but when i read your entry, i thought it was more about YOUR wanting to find the other person attractive...i'm 36, and for me, sure attraction matters, but i like those rare occasions of meeting someone whose worldview and interests click with my own, and we can talk, talk, talk....then again, is this event at "hooters"?
if ron hubbard comes up, i want you to smile and nod with feigned interest while sllllowwwwwwly slipping your hand into your purse for the pepper spray...most people say they love to read though, and when you finally go to their home, the only books on the shelves are "windows for dummies" type fare.....
Oh, this is funny. It's at some sports bar *inside a hotel*... Maybe it's a convenience thing, for the ones who reeeaallllyy want to hook up. ..they can just get a room. heh.
I definitely care about physical attraction, for sure, and I've had some really shallow moments where I went out with someone because they were incredibly beautiful eventhough we had zip zero nada in common. But. from experience, guys tend to care about the physical aspects of relationships and dating more than ladies do... disagree?
The other thing is that the environment is so contrived... I mean it's not going to conducive to great spontaneous conversation.
I agree on the books deal, except my big schtick is Don't forget the library! I know some voracious readers who have very few books but are a regular at the public library... but you are absolutely right that the books question can separate the wheat from the chaff... if they love to read but mainly it's reading a magazine titled Bodybuilding Today, then we'll know we can cross them off the list. ;)
but now I'm totally starting to freak out. Maybe I should be more worried about what they are going to ask *me*. I don't know crap from crisco when it comes to pop culture. They are going to ask about movies and the academy awards and whatnot, and I'm going to appear dumb. ack! not good not good. Or hell, they will ask Were you married? ... and then we're really in for a doozy of a conversation, no?
Also, do you think it's going to be taboo to ask stuff like do they have kids?
But how do you find out if he is mature/responsible? What is the question for that?... Have you had twenty deadend jobs over the past two years? heh. And religion.... that's a doozy, too. Typically you wouldn't talk religion and politics with someone you just met and are only going to talk to for a few minutes, right? But those things will be dealbreakers... hmmm
right. i have no idea how you would be able to find out any of that in 8 minutes. i guess you could ask him smart-people questions, then you could figure out at least if he's intelligent.
If I were ever to go to one of those things, I wouldn't take it at all seriously . My questions would be my favorite amusing (but morbid) conversation starters:
1.) In a completely empty and bare room, using only had to hand combat after all of you have had one day of martial arts training, how many five year olds would it take to take you down?
2.) You're stranded in the mountains, lost and starving. Before you on the ground is our dead mother. Would you be willing to eat her for your own survival?
Colin's questions from the "ask me anything" meme would also be good:
1. After a torrid affair with you, TV chef Emeril Lagasse names a dessert after you. What's it called, and what's in it
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uhhh...sorry, I typed this without my contacts in, so sorry for the typos...that should have been "could handle the left field questions" or something to that affect.
you want get-'em-talking questions, basically, so specific is good, like, not "what's your fave movie," but "what's a SCENE you liked in one of your fave movies."
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i don't think it's jaded to think the spark of attraction is the key in that type of situation...usually that sets up being able to really, really talk to someone on an intimate level....haha---maybe i'm jaded!!
i would ask the last book read...usually it's a fairly revealing question...
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I think I look at it as being jaded because basically I'm going in with the attitude that every guy there is looking for a hottie, and it won't really matter what I say in the end... in the end it will be did they think I was cute or not? Going in with that attitude from the start is probably not the most positive, open/receptive way to go about it. ;)
Yes, books... good point. but what will I do if he replies, "I love me a good Ron Hubbard, don't you?"
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if ron hubbard comes up, i want you to smile and nod with feigned interest while sllllowwwwwwly slipping your hand into your purse for the pepper spray...most people say they love to read though, and when you finally go to their home, the only books on the shelves are "windows for dummies" type fare.....
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I definitely care about physical attraction, for sure, and I've had some really shallow moments where I went out with someone because they were incredibly beautiful eventhough we had zip zero nada in common. But. from experience, guys tend to care about the physical aspects of relationships and dating more than ladies do... disagree?
The other thing is that the environment is so contrived... I mean it's not going to conducive to great spontaneous conversation.
I agree on the books deal, except my big schtick is Don't forget the library! I know some voracious readers who have very few books but are a regular at the public library... but you are absolutely right that the books question can separate the wheat from the chaff... if they love to read but mainly it's reading a magazine titled Bodybuilding Today, then we'll know we can cross them off the list. ;)
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what will I do if he replies, "I love me a good Ron Hubbard, don't you?"
You could always say, "Well, that tells me quite a bit about you" and slink off after the bell rings.
Ask them if they have animals at home?
Ask them, "If you could play Spin the Bottle with any three people in the world, living or dead, fictional or real, who would you pick?"
"Henry Kissinger: War criminal or American hero?"
When my dude and I were dating, we played a game called "Shit/Not the Shit," and that could be cool.
"Okay, Shit/Noth the Shit: The Shins." Like that.
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but now I'm totally starting to freak out. Maybe I should be more worried about what they are going to ask *me*. I don't know crap from crisco when it comes to pop culture. They are going to ask about movies and the academy awards and whatnot, and I'm going to appear dumb. ack! not good not good. Or hell, they will ask Were you married? ... and then we're really in for a doozy of a conversation, no?
Also, do you think it's going to be taboo to ask stuff like do they have kids?
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But how do you find out if he is mature/responsible? What is the question for that?... Have you had twenty deadend jobs over the past two years? heh. And religion.... that's a doozy, too. Typically you wouldn't talk religion and politics with someone you just met and are only going to talk to for a few minutes, right? But those things will be dealbreakers... hmmm
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1.) In a completely empty and bare room, using only had to hand combat after all of you have had one day of martial arts training, how many five year olds would it take to take you down?
2.) You're stranded in the mountains, lost and starving. Before you on the ground is our dead mother. Would you be willing to eat her for your own survival?
Colin's questions from the "ask me anything" meme would also be good:
1. After a torrid affair with you, TV chef Emeril Lagasse names a dessert after you. What's it called, and what's in it ( ... )
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