Pissed

[oshungirl]

I'm thinking about bailing off LJ. It's starting to feel really toxic here. I like corresponding with ya'll in the bits and pieces that we can, but honestly I just got a smack to the face that was pretty hateful. Was removed from a friend's list and she removed herself from mine

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Ack!!!

[psymbiotic]

No, don't go Av! This is one of the only mediums with which we really communicate anymore. :o

Egan

Re: Ack!!!

[oshungirl]

Yeah, I know. I'm just really hurt that this is how she chooses to ditch my friendship. It's really cruel. It just feels like the passive-agressive medium from hell right now

Re: Ack!!!

[serpentbones]

School keeps you a lot busier than most people realize. Throw a job on top of that and it's almost impossible just to get chores done. It's unfortunate, but it's the way things are at the moment.

As far as the friend you're talking about, she obviously didn't want to deal with whatever hurt feelings she had regarding your schedule and is acting like an ass. Maybe she'll come to her senses and apologize at some point. In the meantime, even though it hurts, just try to move on and focus on the friends you have that do understand.

Re: Ack!!!

[oshungirl]

Thank you, hon. Ah, I think it has more to do with her associating me with her ex. Or hell, maybe she just didn't like to to begin with and is just now figuring it out. You know who she is, but I don't want to make it more obvious since I would rather not make a public spectical of her. It really wouldn't be cool for me to do that.

Thanks for the support on the grandfather and the social frustration front. I wish I could see you more! Hey, remind me of your address. (updating info) Congrats on the end of your term, by the by! I'll be with you on the relief front in a couple of days.

[demise_kitty]

I understand your frustration. But please don't leave. This is pretty much to only way I'm able to keep up with what is happening in your life. If you feel you must we need to set up another way of keeping up with each other. With your schedule and my being on east coast time it just makes it hard. And damn it, I miss you!

[laurelei]

You were removed from said friends list because she's not doing very well. Said friend went so far as to delete her journal. Please do not turn this into something about you, because it's not.

Look at it this way, it's hard to watch someone eat a nice, cold, delicious ice cream cone when yours has just gone splat on the sidewalk. Since sharing is inappropriate in this situation, at least you can try to understand why it would be hard to watch someone else eat said ice cream on the hottest day of the year.

I don't want to get in the middle of this, but a little bit of compassion and kindness would go a long way right now. I will be taking my own advice with the friend concerned. I know your life can't go on hold and you can't contain your happiness just because someone else's life has taken a very sour wrong turn, but considering the state of things, at least understand when she doesn't want to watch.

[laurelei]

Also, and this isn't a dig, this is a sincere question, but you may want to ask yourself if you've been as "there" for your friend--considering her circumstances--as you think you have. Considering the enormity of what's been going on in your world, it would be easy to become snowblind to anything else going on with anyone else. I know I've been guilty as all hell of this, what with the baby on the way. When someone's going through nine layers of hell, sometimes we need to turn whatever's going on in our world off, and just be there for the other person. Not easy to do when there's so much to distract our attention in our own world...

Just a thought. Please mull it over. I will be...

I hear you

[oshungirl]

I didn't take it as a dig, so no worries

Re: I hear you

[laurelei]

I hear you, hon, and completely understand. I've felt the same frustrations (see pathetic "all my friends hate me" post for details). I don't know what else can be done. She and I just recently had a long talk about it on e-mail (crap timing on my part--she didn't need my crap on top of her own). Basically, I've decided to go easy and talk later (although much of it was hashed out via the conversation anyway), when she's more able/willing to handle it. I don't blame her for not wanting to deal with anyone else but herself right now. She needs to...

Hell, I'm just pissed off that the world's spotlight isn't currently on me and my pending miracle of life! ; ) (And dude, I am SOOOOO kidding...)