LADIES PLEASE RESPOND ASAP!!!

[osudorkette]

Ok, question, if it were your birthday (for the sake of this exercise pretend you have a husband and 2 kids) would you be hurt if your husband and kids didn't get you anything for it. They know its your birthday and have talked about it in front of you. But instead of a gift, they are going to clean the entire house. Doesn't that seem like you as

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[oretatsubasade]

Well, I'd be pissed because I'd expect my husband to do at least some of the housework anyway. However, I think it would be a really sweet gesture if it were in addition to a small, personal present, like . . . I don't know . . . even something as small as flowers, chocolates, or a nice dinner. They're going to benefit from the tidy house as well, right?

[osudorkette]

That is EXACTALLY what I think! I mean the cleaning is nice, but something small, I mean not even that much. Something like that I think I would be hurt if I didn't get anything....but that's just me

[chelsikins]

If they went through and did a real deep clean, I'd be ecstatic. :) I'm not a big one for physical gifts - I don't need to actually *open* anything - so gestures are what I appreciate. To be honest, I'd much rather go out to a nice dinner or on a trip than actually get gifts. Even for Christmas.

My husband was raised in a household where the phrase "if you can't give someone an expensive gift, don't give them anything at all" was the norm. So it's annoying come birthdays and holidays....my mom is just like me, so I can give her something small, or do something nice for her, and as long as it's from the heart she is happy. For Grant's mom, if we don't get her several gifts to open (NICE ones) and take her out to a meal, then she is irritated.
:P

For me, it really is the THOUGHT that counts. Not the physical gift. *shrug*

[osudorkette]

But the way I see it is that it could be a 2 or 3 dollar gift and mean as much as if he went and spent 30 dollars. Plus, the cleaning is something that should be done anytime...no need for a special occasion

[osudorkette]

I know...

[anonymous]

I've always thought it is the thought of wanting to do something nice for you that counts and it's not about a physical gift. So with that in mind, would you be bothered if your husband took you on a trip somewhere and you didn't receive a gift? My guess is you are more bothered by his lack of thoughtfulness in regards to your gift. (This almost compares to a man giving his wife a new dishwasher for Xmas!)

[osudorkette]

Yes, that is it. The fact that she asks them to do the housework and clean it all the time makes it not that special when they do it. I know that you all probably disagree with me, which is fine, we all have our own thoughts. All I'm saying is that regardless of whether they spend 50 cents or 50 dollars on the gift, she should have something that makes her feel special. Birthday's are those days where you are the star. It's Your DAY!