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[othertouch]

I came out to my mom last night.

She still firmly believes that being bi is bad and immoral. And she said that she had always sensed a very strong moral rectitude in me, and now she's not so sure about it.

We haven't talked any more about it since.

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[rautenkranzmt]

she didn't already know?

[othertouch]

No they didn't. My brother and dad still don't.

I was a little surprised that she was surprised. I mean, sometimes I just ooze dyke. I think maybe she was trying to convince herself that I was just a big tomboy.

[matafleur]

You're very strong.
I haven't worked up the bravery to be open about it around my family yet, just trying to drop some clues here and there.
Sorry to hear it didn't go over so well....

[othertouch]

Thank you. Thank you very much.

I didn't think it would go well. I've know my parents didn't condone bisexuality for almost as long as I've known I'm bi, which was back 6 years ago. I want to change her mind about it, to show her that it's not immoral, that I'm not immoral.

I kinda tried to drop hints too, but I also didn't want my family to know because I'm pretty sure my dad will pick on me mercilessly. I can see us walking down the street, a hot chick walks past us, and he'll say "Are you going to ask for her phone number, or should I ask for you?"

[matafleur]

That's the exact same thing my dad would do... I think my mom would be more accepting but my dad, I mean, I don't mean to be crass but he's the sort that would deem lesbians and bi okay to jack off to but god forbid one of his should turn out to actually be one.

I'm not sure how to go about convincing very traditional sorts that bi is not immoral.
For me, as far as sex goes, flesh is flesh.
And, what the world needs is more love anyhow.. why should it matter it bits and pieces match up 'the right way'?

Okay, I'm rambling now. Just wanted to say that you're not alone.
*internet hugs*

[matafleur]

My parents are a-ok with gay, it's bi they don't like. They look at it as being greedy, as being indecisive and pandering. They think that you aught to buckle down and pick one.

I think settling down is important when you're in a committed relationship, like marriage. I don't think it's necessary in what you're attracted to.

I think my dad would say things like that to be silly. And it would be funny in a shall-I-die-of-embarrassment-now-or-kill-you-first sort of way. My dad's wonderfully quirky. He says things like "You're free, white, and 21. You can wear a lacy black thong if you want." and "How many cat calls do you get in those jeans?"

[riyirowe]

that has to have taken a lot of strength, and I feel for you. I am sorry that it hasn't gone as well as could be hoped for.

[othertouch]

Yeah, thank you. It was a little hard building up to it. Mom and I where talking about that sittuation with my coworker, the one I make uncomfortable, and I said 'Maybe she thinks I'm gay!" and the conversation got rther into how she has no probems with gays, but she does think being bi is wrong. I said that mad me sad, and she said that was how she saw it and continued on her rant and I blurted out 'I'm bi.'

But I figure it hasn't gone badly, at least not yet. She hasn't kicked me out, yelled at me, or even told me I can't be bi. I want to talk with her tonight.