Hi folks.

[greatkills]

 I've always felt like "boy in a girl's body" was a pretty accurate description of myself, but I never felt like "transgender" was a proper name for how I felt, because I don't have a pressing need to transition. It's not that there aren't things about my body that I don't like...I wish I was less small and skinny...but I'd feel the same way if I

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[leolapyre]

I've been thinking about going to a transmasculine meeting at the LGBT Center, but I think it would be more towards people who want to get on T and have surgery. I don't really have anyone else to help me sort through this besides my straight friend.

I've gone to the support group at The Center a few times, and while it seems like the majority of people there are on or pursuing T and surgery, there's certainly a handful who don't completely identify as male (like myself) and do not plan a full medical transition. The group is inclusive for all people who were assigned as female at birth but find that description either inaccurate or incomplete.

The group is on hiatus right now, but I think it will start again in October or November. Keep an eye on the Gender Identity Project page.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask :)

[anacas]

The conversations at the Center group do sometimes skew toward the medical transition side of things, but I've definitely met a decent number of people there who weren't planning on T or surgery. Topics get decided by what the people there want to talk about, so if you had questions or issues you wanted to bring up that weren't focused on T or surgery, I'm sure people would be cool with talking about them.

The next round of meetings start up on September 22nd and run through December 15th. If you're curious and think you could use the resource, it can't hurt to give it a try--people there are pretty welcoming!

[badninja]

You've put into words a lot of things I've tried to but couldn't manage. I feel like you do about how being born a boy would just mirror the problem. I haven't met many people who feel like that, and many of my friends can get insistent on me 'making the problem more concise'.

I'm glad you have found more acceptance after a move! It could be worth a try to go to that group, because if you find out it's not along your interests you can not go a second time. But it's also possible for a group to want to help you even if it's not exactly the same. I'm not sure if I made sense there or not.

There is definitely a good community here. Welcome to it. I hope you stick around. :D It can be a big help in many ways.

[dharma_slut]

As someone who is waffling about going onto T or not, I feel uncomfortable going to my local TM group. EVEN though they too are welcoming towards all variants of transmasculine identity, I can't help feeling angry or envious towards the guys that have taken the bigger steps that I haven't taken.

I hope you do have the balls (so to speak) to go, and to speak up, just in case there is one more person there like yourself... Because they will want to know they have company.

[greatkills]

Maybe I will try it after all. I still have some fear and negative feelings about myself as this way, but I'd like to meet people who would be more affirming than my straight friend. I guess what's keeping me from it is not feeling like I'm butch enough. But if I can pass for a nerdy young guy, I guess that's enough.

And it's not that my friend ever insults me over it, it's just that she feels negatively about herself and sometimes I think she's in the closet.