Comments | oviparous: Glad to be alive

oviparous

Glad to be alive

Nov 04, 2016 09:29

Totally random, but I think I can bravely say I'm happy to be alive. I can say this today, and it's so amazing because I haven't always felt this way.

( Graphic descriptions of miscarriage under the cut, don't click if you're the type that gets squeamish. )

spawn, the plate

Comments 6

grelyx November 6 2016, 07:12:05 UTC

Why don't I see any comments on this? Are they screened? I'm surprised because your post was so well written and so touching and no one said anything. It takes courage and self-awareness and thoughtfulness to share something like this ( ... )

oviparous November 6 2016, 12:56:51 UTC

Hi, passerby/new friend!

lol I think there aren't any comments because miscarriage is still a difficult topic to discuss and people just don't really know what to say. I don't blame them, though. It's why I talk about it in the first place; it's not taboo. Change takes time :)

Thank you for telling me how you felt about this post. I've been very vocal about talking about miscarriage, it's one of the things I'm passionate about, raising awareness and all that, and I'm really glad it meant something to you. It should be talked about ( ... )

paretto23 January 10 2017, 03:43:39 UTC

I'm still fairly young and a little naive on the subject of pregancy and miscarriages, but reading this post made me tear up. A lot. I can't even imagine how upsetting that must have been for you... Even though you aren't exactly looking to concieve again anytime soon, I do hope that something wonderful happens in future. Maybe a happy accident. I don't know you that well (yet?) but you very much seem like such a great, decent and wholesome person. I'm making my way through a lot of your posts over the years and poring over the details of your miscarriage and I hope you don't take it the wrong way, but I learned a lot from your experience. I've decided...never to have kids myself, for personal reasons and irrational fears, but reading what happened to you makes me feel selfish. IDK. Some of us just don't have that natural motherly instinct. I am very sure that you do, though. You would make such a great mother. Sorry if I'm coming across as too much too soon. XD Like I said, I've been reading through your LJ and it's such a good read ( ... )

oviparous January 10 2017, 07:38:42 UTC

Hello love, gonna reply your messages now! Still have yet to respond to your comment on Ao3, will do that soon ;)

Thank you for your words and your heart, they are very much appreciated.

I don't know what your decision is rooted in, but I don't think you should feel selfish for deciding to not have kids :) I think I have more of a teaching/leading instinct than a natural maternal instinct, and I actually think that works well to my advantage, so if I ever have kids again, yay? Haha.

I was just telling my husband last night right before we nodded off that four years ago today I was pregnant, and we just sort of lay there quietly. It's always something that keeps us grounded, I feel. Something that makes us remember how far I've come.

Thank you for being interested in my life! It means a lot to me :D

I hope for the best for you, too. You are have a lovely, sensitive soul. ♥ I'm looking forward to getting to know you better :D

paretto23 January 10 2017, 07:51:25 UTC

Take your time! I don't think I'm going to be online for the next few days anyway, haha. -_ ( ... )

oviparous January 10 2017, 13:18:13 UTC

Oh dear, my sympathies. I can take not being online, but only when I want to. Most of the time I feel like I have to, haha ( ... )