While reading my ex's lj last night, it made me laugh. Makes me feel even more puzzled and a little annoyed when I notice that I can no longer comment on his post. lol
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I think Frank is a broken person nowadays, and that he will lash out like a wounded animal at whomever criticizes him or anything of his the slightest bit, and you have to remember that Helena. My advice would be to avoid any contact with him on line unless it's emails dealing with family business. And be sure to make records of every time you make an effort for Melody to talk to him, any form of contact you initiate between the two of them, so that it's not going to be just his word for how often he has access to his kid, because his word may not be completely rational
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Thanks, Seal! As usual, you come with good and rational advice and I will follow it. His "poor me" attitude is just going too far at times. but don't worry, I am not reading his lj. this was a one time thing. I have never even tried to look for him on Twitter either. I needn't read his lies about me. I wish he didn't talk bad about me like that. But I supposey ou are right about that too, that he is broken. But him and I usually keep a civilized conversation when Melody is around. To start keeping a record, he called us up yesterday, just as we had come home from a friend. So I asked her to hurry and take her overall off, so that she could come to the computer and talk to him. We all had a decent conversation over Skype, with webcam and all. She was happy to talk to dad and grandma. The only reason why I read this one entry in his lj was because alleigh pointed it out to me. I haven't even looked at it for a year at least.
You sound angry Helena. What I meant was actually to even refrain from responding in the manner you did to my comment here. It's probably smart if you don't discuss your ex with alleigh in the way that's been done on LJ also. It will not help the family situation.
my main point would be, don't use the blog for this type of thing at all, if you can avoid it. This is not the place to neither straighten out truths or lies, nor any other conflicts. Just because one person does it, doesn't make it healthier for another to do so.
venting is okay if needed, and that's what private posting is for. The very fact that neither you nor Frank seem to be using that, indicate that you both want to hash your drama in public and gather sympathy.
angry? No, I am not angry. At least not at you. And yes, I do try to avoid it all here. I am NOT meaning to cause any drama whatsoever. I was only writing the entry as a venting thing. Not to gather sympathy or for any other public reason. I just wrote. However, you almost seem to indicate that my lj entries have contained lies, just like his have and that is something I will have to deny. I never lie and especially not over here. To lie is below me. I may sometimes overreact, but I never lie. No, I might be angry at the whole stupid situation, but NOT at you, Seal dear. I don't think I have ever been angry with you. I have been disappointed once or twice, but have always seen your rational points and agreed with you in the end. But never been angry with you. You will have to try harder if you wanna make me angry. ;)
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But him and I usually keep a civilized conversation when Melody is around. To start keeping a record, he called us up yesterday, just as we had come home from a friend. So I asked her to hurry and take her overall off, so that she could come to the computer and talk to him. We all had a decent conversation over Skype, with webcam and all. She was happy to talk to dad and grandma.
The only reason why I read this one entry in his lj was because alleigh pointed it out to me. I haven't even looked at it for a year at least.
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my main point would be, don't use the blog for this type of thing at all, if you can avoid it. This is not the place to neither straighten out truths or lies, nor any other conflicts. Just because one person does it, doesn't make it healthier for another to do so.
venting is okay if needed, and that's what private posting is for. The very fact that neither you nor Frank seem to be using that, indicate that you both want to hash your drama in public and gather sympathy.
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However, you almost seem to indicate that my lj entries have contained lies, just like his have and that is something I will have to deny. I never lie and especially not over here. To lie is below me. I may sometimes overreact, but I never lie.
No, I might be angry at the whole stupid situation, but NOT at you, Seal dear. I don't think I have ever been angry with you. I have been disappointed once or twice, but have always seen your rational points and agreed with you in the end. But never been angry with you. You will have to try harder if you wanna make me angry. ;)
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