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[paedraggaidin]

Alright, can someone please explain to me, because I genuinely do not understand, why American parents seek to adopt children from other countries (often spending thousands of dollars and years of time and effort in the process) when there are thousands of children in America who need adoption?

Because I really don't get it.

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[napoleonofnerds]

Because the state department doesn't have the balls to tell them no?

[lcw1795]

Especially for overseas infant adoption, it's because you don't have to worry about the bioparents trying to regain custody. I've known too many domestic adoptions that have 'fallen through' at the last minute because the bioparents decide to parent their child. Years of infertility, thousands of dollars, and empty arms.

I'm all for bioparents' rights- which is why if I choose to have a family through infant adoption, I will go overseas. I know my heart would not be able to take a failed adoption.

[ewans_gal_4ever]

I've known too many domestic adoptions that have 'fallen through' at the last minute because the bioparents decide to parent their child. Years of infertility, thousands of dollars, and empty arms.

That was another reason my friend listed, too. Fear of having the child taken from her. The ones she looking at now are so "broken" (for lack of a better term), that have been in the system for so long the chances of the parents coming back in the picture are nil and none. Her biggest challenge now is personality and finding someone willing to adopt out to a single parent. It's not as glorified or easy as Hollywood makes it look. It seems a very lengthy process which is good, however, as to not make an already traumatized child worse off by placing them in an incompatible home. My friend has much more patience than I do. Bless her.

[anonymous]

I don't know about american politics for adoption but here what happens is that the biological parents get a lot of rights too and can come back to get the children whenever, or something for up to 2 years after the formal adoption. From what I understand, parents who want to adopt want a child of their own, without the chance of someone taking it away, even if it's the child's actual biological parents.

But yes, I understand your point of view, I mean, why not adopt local children who are in trouble? it would seem like the thing to do for only the shipping costs ;)

lolo

This is probably the exception to the rule

[anonymous]

There's a couple at my church back home that has a couple kids from Haiti. They do a lot of work with an orphanage in Haiti (which apparently survived the earthquake with minimal damage), so they adopted kids and got others in the community to adopt children (not babies) from there.

My dad mentioned to my mother that if they weren't getting so old, he'd want to adopt a child in China. God has really given him a heart for the Chinese people. He spends about half his time there currently for business.