Not much to write today. Except that I feel depressed. And guilty that I am feeling so. Didn't I move to Albany to avoid days like these
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remember several thingsbinxcatNovember 3 2003, 17:18:25 UTC
(1) you are still very new to this job. There is a lot you don't know, and a lot you should not be expected to know - yet I'm willing to wager that because you're an intelligent, competent, hard-working individual, your higher-ups tend to forget that you need help and guidance and just assume you know what you're doing. Its a sucky thing about being smart, but people often times tend to figure that you know how to do X, or that you'll at least figure it out. All you can do is just what you're doing, ask a million and one questions, clarify, ask for help. Misunderstandings will happen, and that's all they are - if your boss is reasonable, he will understand
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in the dark?fraudirectorNovember 3 2003, 17:33:09 UTC
And I realize that I hate being gone from home so much. I pretty much am at home when it is dark only at this point. That's depressing.
On a side note, this may have very little to do with actual time spent at work, vs. time of the year. Hell, I'm several degrees of latitude further south than you, and I'm getting up in the dark and arriving back home in the dark. Be happy you aren't further north! This part will start getting better in about 7 weeks. :-)
Re: in the dark?opaleneNovember 4 2003, 11:29:05 UTC
This has a HUGE affect on me. I think I have Seasonal Affective Disorder. Every damn year the same thing happens. It gets dark at 4:15 p.m. I become withdrawn and want to go to sleep every night at 7:30 p.m. It SUCKS! I have to try REALLY hard to fight this every, single year. One thing I do is turn all the lights on when I get home to make for a very bright indoor environment. Also, continue to take those walks during the day for some sun exposure. I'm a firm believer this affects some people mentally. I know EXACTLY what you mean by this.
You have had bad luck in the job market. You have worked a large number of jobs that have not brought you the intellectual and professional rewards that you had hoped. However, you were successful as an employee and given responsibility at each place. I think that the move from Boston did change your life in a lot of positive ways but the issue that you are really not sure what you want to do when you grow up has followed you. That is okay. You are young, you are bright and anyone who hires you is luckly to have you. Everyone screws up. At BlackRock I spent hours on a study guide only to run off $600 worth of copies with a typo. Yeah, I felt like an idiot but mistakes happen and they will continue to happen. I just try to make different mistakes. That is all I ask of myself. You are in a process. You are trying out different things in order to find your place in the working world. You will find your place. Just think, you are doing this in a place where you have the financial freedom to experiment much more
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No such thing.opaleneNovember 4 2003, 11:37:35 UTC
Not to say something cliche that you don't want to hear, but perfect doesn't exist. The key, I think, is finding the balance that you want. For example, is having a good boss more important to you than having your own office, or is really enjoying what you're doing during the day more important to you than getting along with your coworkers? What I'm trying to say is that there are give and takes in EVERY situation. You have to decide what is most important to you in a job, and then not expect it to give you everything you need for happiness. Every job has a give and take. With that, you can't expect yourself (or others) to do a perfect job. You are a very intelligent person. Don't make the mistake of not asking questions, etc. to not make yourself look stupid, because inevitably, the reverse happens. Another cliche: No question is a dumb question. You're not going to learn anything if you don't make mistakes and ask questions
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Take care of my Robin!yuckapooNovember 4 2003, 18:14:54 UTC
When I think Robin, I think perfection. And so does everyone else. As a matter of fact, if the Robin I know ever did anything wrong or even hinted at making a mistake or was unsure, then I'd stop being her friend immediately. Actually, I'd probably start bad-mouthing her to everyone I knew. Un-perfect people won't get anywhere in this perfect world, and I wouldn't want to associate myself with someone like that.
Right.
So why is it that you hold yourself to this standard? Remember the "small cups of good coffee" guy? You wanna be like him?!
1. DO NOT interpret your lack of expertise in a field as being a f*ck up. 2. DO NOT let your biorhythms disrupt your ease with the world. 3. DO NOT let a miscommunication spell doom and gloom for your career. 4. DO NOT set expectations for the world around you to fall into place like a soap opera. And most importantly... 5. DO NOT beat my Robin up otherwise I will beat you up
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On a side note, this may have very little to do with actual time spent at work, vs. time of the year. Hell, I'm several degrees of latitude further south than you, and I'm getting up in the dark and arriving back home in the dark. Be happy you aren't further north! This part will start getting better in about 7 weeks. :-)
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Right.
So why is it that you hold yourself to this standard? Remember the "small cups of good coffee" guy? You wanna be like him?!
1. DO NOT interpret your lack of expertise in a field as being a f*ck up.
2. DO NOT let your biorhythms disrupt your ease with the world.
3. DO NOT let a miscommunication spell doom and gloom for your career.
4. DO NOT set expectations for the world around you to fall into place like a soap opera.
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5. DO NOT beat my Robin up otherwise I will beat you up ( ... )
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Yeah! So, there!
Regarding point #5 of Section Two (beating), I'll help her, and we're taller than you (even if only by a little), so don't do it again.
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