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[palmerjp]

it's been about a year since i have spoken with my father. he ignored my birthday, ignored me on christmas, but for some reason decided to call me and drunkenly wish me a happy memorial day, telling me to call him if i want to

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[paperwings86]

I played this game with my father too. In the 8 months leading up to his passing, he was doing some really unhealthy, fucked up shit and I made the choice that for the preservation of my own health I could not be in contact with him.

Despite the fact that he then passed away in a rather untimely fashion, I do not regreat this. I am still glad that I wasn't entrenched in that crap. It is important to advocate for your own health and well being. In fact, I strongly believe that matters above all else in relationships.

It's heartbreaking no matter what, but I would suggest not calling him back and leaving it at that. By continuing to not respond you are sending an even loud message that you are above heated drama and are not going to feed into it. And this way you aren't going to feel shitty about something you said or question how you said things.

And see what your mom thinks.