Making Friends as an Adult

[paninogirl]

Matt and I have oftentimes talked about how we wish we had more close friends. Granted, we're not at a loss for social invitations, but there's something different between getting together for a quick meal, a shopping excursion, or a night of gaming compared to someone you call/email on a regular basis and talk about the important things. However

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[lisianthia]

You and Matt aren't alone. It's definitely harder to make friends as an adult. My immediate friend circle has undergone a change in the past year as people have gotten new jobs, new significant others, and new priorities. I love my close friends, but its always nice to introduce fresh blood into your life. That's how I met a lot of the people I hang out with now, you make a few new friends and then you meet THEIR friends, and it spirals from there.

[sassylidge]

My recommendation is to follow through when yo say "we should get together sometime."

Minnesotans seem particularly bad about not following through for some reason.

[acoustic_riff]

I can relate to the difficulty in making friends at this age (or even keeping old friends). I know plenty of people but no longer have any close friends to talk to about day-to-day things. I have attempted to try to get in contact with people but it always seem difficult to get a response (and really not liking calling people - since with cell phones a person could be anywhere and you could bothering them when something important is happening - doesn't help).

It also seems like everyone I know is a couple, so I always assume everyone is busy doing couple things. And since I never get any phone calls from people I know, well it makes for a lot boring Friday nights.

[damncutekitty]

After college it's hard to maintain friendships. In the last 5-6 years I have seen my friend groups morph and change dramatically. I got divorced. Others married. People couple up, break up, move away. I'm still friends with almost all of them but some people I see often and others I only see a few times a year.

My current friend group is AWESOME. I actually feel like I do have friends like those on How I Met Your Mother. Though none of us went to college together. The group sort of cobbled together because I met a couple of people on LJ and then we all hung out one year at con and it just sort of snowballed.

[mandydax]

Wow, it's like you read my mind. Right down to how dorm life was great for getting together and how I'd really like to know a Barney. I often wonder about this. I will say that working 2nd shift is shitty for having a social life. :\