Love vs. Sex
This isn't about love, any more than it's about sex. It's about both.
In today's world, or in the years leading up to it, love and sex go hand in hand. Sex is what you do when you love someone deeply, love is what sex is.
I don't think that's true. Sex is sex, and love is love. Sex makes babies if you have it certain ways, and parents raise babies, and parents should stay together, so sex is love. I think that's a line of logic people actually use. Sex without love is bad, slutty, distasteful, taboo, unclean, foul, dirty, hedonistic. Love without sex is nearly godlike.
I think it's a mistake. Sex is sex, and love is love. Sex can enhance love, love can enhance sex. Sex can ruin love - ever had a friend who you couldn't be around because you'd fucked them? What about parents and children having sex? That violates the love they have together. Love can ruin sex - what happens when you're so in love with someone that you can't stand to have sex with them?
I think if people treated sex as something intimate but not purely emotional love, and love as something that did not always lead to sex, then the world would work more efficiently. People would be monogamous because they wanted to, not because they felt they had to. People would enjoy sexuality, and people would enjoy love, and optimize their experiences in the world.
I don't know if I'm right. Am I wrong? I don't want to feel like I have this right in my head if I'm really barking up the wrong tree.
-ddarkwolfe