This is more common than you may think. It happens as parents get older particularly if the parent has some sort of illness.
I'm sorry she's giving you such a hard time. I know how hard it is too to set that ball down and not play their game. You feel obligated, because they're your parent, to care for them and take whatever abuse they heap on you.
I don't have much advice to give you. I didn't get out from under that myself until my stepdad finally passed away. Maybe there is some sort of book, or group therapy or forum online you could join to get support.
*tacklepounciehugs a Cats!!!!* MURRRR!!! I've missed you, Cats!!! *cheekrub* Strangely enough, my therapist has been helping me deal with the dysfunctional part of my romantic relationships and that part is helping me deal with the dysfunctional part of my relationship with my mother. Instead of calling her back, I wrote a very calm, clear, mature e-mail to her outlining how inappropriate her behavior is. We'll see what she writes back. I'm trying *so hard* not to play her game and not to feel guilty. We'll see how well I do with the guilt thing. *shrug*
Thank you for these words, Cats. I hope you are ok....
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I'm sorry she's giving you such a hard time. I know how hard it is too to set that ball down and not play their game. You feel obligated, because they're your parent, to care for them and take whatever abuse they heap on you.
I don't have much advice to give you. I didn't get out from under that myself until my stepdad finally passed away. Maybe there is some sort of book, or group therapy or forum online you could join to get support.
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Thank you for these words, Cats. I hope you are ok....
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