Ah, a compromise

[paraxeni]

I've written and canned three posts today because of the uncontrollable grudgey rage, so I'm gonna get it out via clumsy analogies for now.

I am a disabled woman.  I haven't always been that way, but I am now.  Would you ever ask me to give up Wheelson, or ditch the assistive tech. I use, just because I once had the privilege of being able-bodied

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[kaowolfie]

On AIM, I said this to my best friend: "I also want to punch people who think trans women have male privilege. That is not how male privilege works. The instant you start giving the impression that maybe you aren't a macho manly man, you start losing male privilege. The instant you set foot outside your house en femme and people you know see you, or you begin to live as a woman, you will never have male privilege again

[paraxeni]

oh THAT's where I remember her name (and my annoyance at it) from. Thank you for that! Yeah, she's guilty of the other side of the trans fail coin. To that crowd trans men are only really super-caffeinated, extra butch, non-threatening 'bois' to practice their 'diversity' on. Then they crush on a trans man, suddenly proclaim themselves 'queer', and invalidate the guy's identity on the spot, and cry when said guy reminds them that he is in fact, just a straight guy, and won't be going to Pride march with them.

*headdesk*

Oh yesssss. One of those women who thinks they can get to the top of the pile by kicking trans women, poor women, disabled women and WOC to the bottom, and then proclaims herself a 'feminist'. Lol forever.

ps hope your dad's feeling beter, big hugs.

[kaowolfie]

She's very... young and that's the nicest thing I can say about her. I is not perfect and I fuck it up sometimes despite trying to not stomp on people with privileged boots, but I think she's got herself convinced that she never owned a pair of such boots to begin with. I rather wish she wasn't going to a women's school, since I think attending an actually diverse campus could have done her a world of good.

& Dad's fine, at least now that our little terrier has stopped sitting on him. (She was convinced that if she snuggled Daddy, he couldn't leave again.) But thank you! *hug*

[theo_harrison]

Oh god, that post. I can't even gather my thoughts about it beyond AAAAAAARRRGH.

[paraxeni]

I know right? I read it when I woke up and thought I had to be fucking dreaming or something, hence the angry comment and quick retreat to mull it all over in my head

[theo_harrison]

I did a similar thing: woke up, thought "A reincarnated drow? Srsly? Top!" then read the comments in vary degrees of |: /: ): D:

Almost the same thing happened on fandom_wank earlier this week with the bloody VB/AB thing, with people misgendering a trans man 'because he's a known conman.' And I just don't understand why some cis people lying about their gender has anything to do with anything, unless someone's more concerned about some cis person 'putting one over on them' (paraphrased but damn close to actual sentences I've encountered) than not being a fucking offensive shitnoggin to actual trans people.

That lullabee person bothers me too, because she seems to be really eager to leap into the fray but then leaves her own arse hanging out in ways that make me wary. IDK. (not saying I'm perfect, but yanno.)

...JFC, there is so much wrong with that abuse comment I'm still trying to get my head around it.

[madwitch]

WHY COULD THEY NOT HAVE CONCENTRATED ON THE DROW BIT.

Honestly, I almost banned everyone.

[tokio]

Thank you so much for the coupon! I'm going to use it soon. I can't wait, because I think it'll give me a renewed love for LJ.

[paraxeni]

No probs! I had to try twelve times to get yours to send :S Christmas gremlins no doubt..

[tokio]

OMG. There's a pretty big caveat with that upgrade discount you guys got to send out. If you use the coupon and upgrade, you don't actually get any extra userpics or storage! WTF!! You know, they should have just sent everyone with a paid account something THEY could use for THEIR journal rather than trying to rip everyone off in general.

[maeveenroute]

Do you have the right to call me bisexual or heterosexual because I've kissed boys in my dim, distant past?

As it turns out, some people would say "yes." Possibly the same people who are the problem in a lot of trans discussions, come to think of it.

[nightchild01]

After reading the comments on your post, I feel like I've missed something huge. Something huge that will make me want to kill things when/if I stumble on it later.