When my daughter was just past 2, we had to get her pacifier away. We asked her what big girl toy she would like, wrote a letter to the binky fairy telling her, and then left all the binkies by the fireplace in a special box. In the morning, they were gone and she had her little bike. She never asked for them again!
Your binky fairy idea is so cute! I don't think my son would understand something like that though as he's behind in communication skills. It's worth a shot at least.
First of all you dhould understand the need of your child to have this toy. He probably wants to feel and to know that somebody is ALWAYS with him and he wants to know that THIS will never change. If you make him leave this toy by force he will be hurt, i suppose. Your task is to make your bor feel that you are ALWAYS thinking about him and you are with him physically when you have an opportunity. And that YOU need HIM as well as HE needs the BEAR. And you have to LOVE this toy so that your child knew that you UNDERSTAND him. That's just only my point of veiw. :) Good luck!!! :)
Taking it out right away wouldn't be such a hot idea. Work your way down by replacing the rattle bear for another toy. Try other ways to distract your son from the rattle bear. For example, reading a story or two using toy puppets while tucking him away for bedtime. Slowly weaning him away from the toy helps. Kindly explain to him the rattle toy will become his vehicle buddy (car rides only) so he will stay calm during those car trips and get him out of the door in the mornings. Having a companion in the car doesn't hurt. I usually have a magna-doodle for my 22 month old right by her high chair during those times when she doesn't feel like eating her entire meal at home. Over time, she relied on the toy less before meal and now she treats her magna-doodle like any other toy without any attachment
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my son (13 1/2 months) has this yellow giraffe that he just LOVES. when stretched, it plays a short lullabye and when its pressed, says a prayer. He sleeps with it everynight and when we go on long trips, we take it. i can't imagine taking it away from him yet. (or even at all)
when he is older and doesnt want it anymore, i'm sure he'll just stop using it.
Just jumping in here. It was always my understanding (and I read this recently somewhere too...Parenting or Parents magazine probably?) that it's a good thing for a child to have a security blanket/lovie thing. It's their way of soothing themselves and not needing someone else (i.e., parent/caretaker) doing it all the time; it's a form or road to independence. My oldest son (4.5 years) has a blanket which he sleeps with every night and is usually downstairs somewhere in the family room/wherever we are during the day. Doesn't usually go in the car with us, but sometimes it does and that's fine. We don't let him take into stores,etc where it could get dropped/dirty/lost, etc and he's fine with that. (He does have a different blanket at daycare/preschool which I presume is only used during naptime or when he's gotten hurt or something...I think he's too busy there to think about it most of the time.) Why cause the kids more grief and anguish when the blanket/toy is soothing them? I had a blanket until I was about 5--it was all
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Since I posted this, we've set limits on when he can have his bear, just like you said. He's fine with just having bear to sleep with or play with while he's home. It's so much less stressful now!
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When my daughter was just past 2, we had to get her pacifier away. We asked her what big girl toy she would like, wrote a letter to the binky fairy telling her, and then left all the binkies by the fireplace in a special box. In the morning, they were gone and she had her little bike. She never asked for them again!
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Your binky fairy idea is so cute! I don't think my son would understand something like that though as he's behind in communication skills. It's worth a shot at least.
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He probably wants to feel and to know that somebody is ALWAYS with him and he wants to know that THIS will never change.
If you make him leave this toy by force he will be hurt, i suppose.
Your task is to make your bor feel that you are ALWAYS thinking about him and you are with him physically when you have an opportunity.
And that YOU need HIM as well as HE needs the BEAR.
And you have to LOVE this toy so that your child knew that you UNDERSTAND him.
That's just only my point of veiw. :)
Good luck!!! :)
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He sleeps with it everynight and when we go on long trips, we take it.
i can't imagine taking it away from him yet. (or even at all)
when he is older and doesnt want it anymore, i'm sure he'll just stop using it.
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Since I posted this, we've set limits on when he can have his bear, just like you said. He's fine with just having bear to sleep with or play with while he's home. It's so much less stressful now!
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