Homesickness...

[paris_]

Well I'm feeling terribly terribly homesick. I thought that things would get better once classes started; well classes started yesterday and I think that today is my worst day yet. And I'm stressed b/c of my classes (one of which I really really don't wanna take--my core course. I love my physics class right now (I'm even looking forward to

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[sabvag]

You'll probably hate me for saying this, but the worst thing you can do right now is go home, cause you'll come back and you'll feel even worse because you were reintroduced to home and it will be harder to leave. (This happened to both my roommates who went home, so I'm not just bs'ing!) Wait another week or two until you're really set in your routine, then go home.

[paris_]

Yeah I've heard that and it's prolly true, but I don't think that I could make it through the weekend w/o going home. I know, I'll have to deal, but right now there isn't enough to keep me occupied down here and all my new friends in the dorm are going home this weekend, so I'll be stuck with the "Barbie Squad" (the preppy girls down the hall that stay up till 2 am talking and laughing loudly out in the hall). Yeah. So I'm going home. But I do think you're right.

My advice

[callistoskye]

Raa, I'm barely done with week two, so I'm not sure I can give you great advice, but here you go:
1) Keep busy. If you keep yourself occupied, you have less time to think about how much you wish you were home. Get involved in activities (sports, publications, whatever) around where you are. Even running errands-- errands without any real purpose, like walking to a farther away store to buy extra soap or something-- can help fill space you have.

2) Find one or two people you can talk to. Guy or girl, freshman or upperclassman... life improves a lot when you have someone you can do things with, even if it's only once every couple days for an hour or two.

3) Get enough sleep. At least for me, feeling bad-- homesick, frustrated, angry at the stupid people around me-- is generally correlated with lack of sleep. When I sleep enough, I cope with the same situations much better.

No worries, you'll be okay. Give yourself a little time, and try to notice what's cool about your new surroundings. :-)

Re: My advice

[paris_]

Thanks Jess! I know I haven't been getting enough sleep (and I can really feel it too). I don't think I will really ever get enough sleep, given that I can't fall asleep until eleven pm or so and i have to get up at about 6:30 at the latest on MWF. (I think eventually I will adjust to my school sleep schedule, where I really only need 6 hours, preferably 7 1/2, to get by and function properly).

I agree with the finding people part--I'm trying to do that, but since everyone started classes this week, it's a bit difficult to connect for more than dinner (which then only lasts a half an hour, generally).

I think another part of my problem is that I'm under stress otherwise (see my latest LJ entry for an explanation of that).

But anyway, thanks for your advice