Hello

[preopstr8chic]

I just thought I would stop by and introduce myself.  I am the partner of a ftm.  We have been together for seven  years now and I met Brian as a female.  I am on board with the transition but now find myself without a connection or sense of belonging to a community.  I am hoping this is normal for the partner of a ftm and will pass. 

Comments

[annabelle_blue]

Welcome

[preopstr8chic]

Thank you for your reply. It is good to hear this is perfectly normal. It is almost like I am mourning the loss of the old me. Brian's transition is just starting he is actually not even starting T until after the first of the year. I think part of the problem is we live in rural Michigan so the resources are scarce at best. At this point our lesbian friends have been wonderfully supportive but he hasn't begun to change. I know when this is all over I will find some peace and connection with the assumptions by the common world that we are straight.

Thank you again for your wonderful and warm response.

[deandratb]

Hi... I'm 23, and my partner is an FTM that I began dating as a female. I just wanted to say thanks for posting your entry, cuz I feel exactly the same way. He's just starting his transition, and I'm his only support. But we moved from my hometown in WA to Utah this year, so I'm very without any support system of my own right now. I'm just very glad I'm not the only person who feels this way.

[preopstr8chic]

Hi nice to meet you. No way are you the only one. I seem to have gotten over this hump so far, and I am waiting for the next. So you moved away from your support sytem. You will eventually begin to rationalize where you belong. Brian and I have had many discussion about where we feel we will fit in eventually. The gray area is just going to remain until then.

Anyway I am certain I have babbled enough. Great to meet you.