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charcoaleyes78 in partners_of_tg

changes

Dec 22, 2007 17:08

My soon to be husband is on T. He's been on T for about 10 months now. He's been on a lowish dose, so the changes are happening gradually, which is good for both of us ( Read more... )

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brujaoscura December 23 2007, 00:28:20 UTC

sighs- there are so many things I wish I could name them all.
My partner's smell has changed.(My partner is a MtF) the voice has changed slightly- and there are other things....
SOmetimes I wish we could go back to what we were- but in some ways we're happier.

heidi_amster December 23 2007, 14:07:57 UTC

Hello folks, and hi Love,

I also have a "paranoid" mindframe. One thing that has changed for me in all this is my doubts that Bru loves me completely. There is no way one would go thru what she is without an unconditional heart.

WHat I dislike most in the changes, as it relates to our lives, is the ways in which my becoming more happy affects her negtively. Sometimes, the more "up" I go, the more "down" she becomes.

Bru has given me my life. How can I pay her back?

It's a small thing. dolphinish December 23 2007, 04:41:57 UTC

I'm actually at a really good place, but I still have some residual wistfulness over my partner's old singing voice.

Re: It's a small thing. charcoaleyes78 December 23 2007, 20:45:25 UTC

I can understand that. Hopefully, once his voice settles to where it will be, it will be a voice you enjoy. I'm usually at a really good place. It was just the way his different smell hit me this morning that made me think about these things.

tideling December 23 2007, 08:33:47 UTC

It's such a hard balance, trying to be supportive of the changes as they come, while at the same time, honoring your own sense of loss at losing parts of the person you treasure. My fiancee and I started dating after he'd been on T for four years, so I missed most of the hormonal changes. There are other ones in store, though. He's getting chest surgery this spring. I'm thrilled that he'll finally be able to get rid of the binders he hates so much. He'll be able to go swimming and take his shirt off in the summer. I know he hates having breasts, and that his body image is going to improve significantly once they're gone. But goddamnit, I'm going to miss them.

voiceofanangel December 23 2007, 17:56:36 UTC

I agree. It's nice to have the travel pillows! Although I think his chest will be super sexy, I'll still miss them.

charcoaleyes78 December 23 2007, 20:40:15 UTC

The chest surgery was the easiest for us. I thought I would miss them, but I don't. And, it changed his attitude so much. Its just the little, more intimate things, mostly his smell, that make me a little sad.

voiceofanangel December 23 2007, 17:54:22 UTC

Honestly, the smell change is the one thing that I'm dreading... The smell of guys has never really been a turn on for me.

voiceofanangel December 23 2007, 17:58:42 UTC

He has elevated T levels naturally, so I got used to the voice (which drops with his moods) very quickly and found it quite pleasing. I've never been much for body hair, but he's Italian... I've gotten used to the leg and underarm hair, but I'm not sure how I'll react to chest hair which he will probably develop, given his... well, hairiness.

charcoaleyes78 December 23 2007, 20:42:12 UTC

I totally understand this. I like the deeper voice. I'm finding I love the facial hair, and his body hair. I've never really liked in on other guys, but on him its different. We revel in every new chest hair. But, the smell change is more sudden than I thought it would be.

voiceofanangel December 23 2007, 22:28:52 UTC

He just told me that he'll most likely shave his chest, b/c he's not fond of chest hair. I agree with you about liking it on him and not other guys. :)

pixelthesexyful December 26 2007, 07:25:45 UTC

Hey all.. my partner is fTm and has been on T for about 4 and a half months... My biggest issue has been the mood swings and aggression.. which has me concerned considering his dosage isn't being monitored.. like many transbois in our area...
but as i'm reading i am actually a little concerned about what will happen with he gets rid of his handful of chest that he has now.. they're so small he doesnt even really need to bind.. and i know how gorgeous (more gorgeous.. correction*) he'll be and how much happier.. i think i'm more worried that i might react in such a way that will upset him.. which i most definitely dont want to do.
but its fun watching him pick at his little chin hairs.. and for christmas i got to buy him old spice and new razor blades.. and he clapped like a little boi :-p