i give up

[pastrylikewolf]

I can't seem to figure it out, how do you have well grounded, well directed confidence? All sorts of fake confidence are easy; arrogance, cockiness, insecurity projected as an "I'll just keep saying I can't fail" kind of attitude. How do you attain the real thing without losing more valuable things in its pursuit

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[shaktool]

I think there's an important but subtle distinction to make between different kinds of confidence: there's the confidence in whether or not an action will have the desired outcome, and then there's the confidence in whether the action is the right thing to do. Generally speaking, the right thing to do is *something*. Anything. If we do nothing, then we have learned nothing. If we do something, and it fails, we have learned something. Even if I have low confidence in my success, I can still have high confidence that I'm doing the right thing, given what I know at the time.

That said, your third paragraph is important too. Having poor feedback sucks.

SocraticStoic

[anonymous]

The question isn't "how does one attain confidence?" but "Why don't you have it already?" or "What's stopping you?" Something in you is blocking it, identifying and removing it is the answer.