Feelings like that are a large part of why I put a lot of effort into being sociable with "normal" people - out of the idea that if I can get by with them, I can theoretically do so with just about anybody.
It almost works in that I haven't really been crippled by that feeling for quite a while - although there have been some divisive moments here and there.
I'm not sure if it's a technique I'd recommend - but it's what works for me.
Hello, neighbor! I live in Seattle's North End, myself. I know what you mean about feeling isolated and cut off. There are good people here, people you could be good friends with, but finding them can be . . . well, a long and arduous journey. I hope things go well for you. :-)
If you ever need to get out hon, I'm always in town and usually up for doing something. Standing offer, and I promise I won't be too terribly weird. n.n
But yes. I can appreciate how you feel, as it's part of the reason why I don't ever ask anyone to do anything except very rarely. In part it's that I don't like imposing, but mostly it's that I feel like I've worn out my welcome by even saying anything. (This falls under the category of social phobia, by the way--not 'afraid of people' but more afraid of doing the wrong thing to the point of it being crippling.)
Also, if it's any consolation, I often enough get the feeling that everyone is staring at me, openly condescending. I've had times where I just can't leave the apartment because I can't deal with the feeling that people are staring at me. x.x
So yes. Once again, standing offer to do things, even if it is just to come out to the apartment and dump your brain. I'll happily listen.
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It almost works in that I haven't really been crippled by that feeling for quite a while - although there have been some divisive moments here and there.
I'm not sure if it's a technique I'd recommend - but it's what works for me.
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But yes. I can appreciate how you feel, as it's part of the reason why I don't ever ask anyone to do anything except very rarely. In part it's that I don't like imposing, but mostly it's that I feel like I've worn out my welcome by even saying anything. (This falls under the category of social phobia, by the way--not 'afraid of people' but more afraid of doing the wrong thing to the point of it being crippling.)
Also, if it's any consolation, I often enough get the feeling that everyone is staring at me, openly condescending. I've had times where I just can't leave the apartment because I can't deal with the feeling that people are staring at me. x.x
So yes. Once again, standing offer to do things, even if it is just to come out to the apartment and dump your brain. I'll happily listen.
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