Guilt Trips by my Family

[pathia]

I'm more or less refusing to go home for the holidays this season due to the fiasco that happened when I went home for Dad's wedding. So far all the conversations have devolved into guilt tripping me and saying I'm selfish. Here are some of the reasons why it's critical that I go home for Christmas. Note: other family members are not getting

Comments

[marchenland]

I think you should change your phone number and not tell them the new one. *hugs*

[shaydenekokoro]

It's a cruel and disconnecting move, but I kind of agree.

[marchenland]

I wouldn't suggest it under normal circumstances, but this year they have been so hard on Pathia, and now they pull this, too? Enough.

[wolfwings]

Everyone has a right to be selfish in their own self-interest. So it doesn't matter if you're being selfish or not, that's a false argument. Admitedly, this is coming from someone who advocates measures up to and including adult adoption to formalize breaking ties with birth-families if one finds a 'chosen' family one fits better with.

[pathia]

I have no need or desire to take it to that extreme a level.

[ff00ff]

I think you're being very selfish for not coming to spend Christmas with me here in Phoenix. Too good for your casual acquaintances?

In seriousness though, you don't owe anything to anyone who belittles your relationship that way. Someone who would do that doesn't get to be the judge of selfishness for damn sure.

[xander_opal]

*hugs*

[elka_woof]

Yeah, I've got a kid on the way. I'd be happy to let you borrow them for an evening, if you ever wanted to shock the folks.

As far as family goes, what they're saying about you wouldn't be able to sting if you didn't have some of yourself tied up in what they think of you. Why is what they are saying important to you?