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[peacefullyme]

Sometimes I sit here watching Ethan and think we have been blessed with such a wonderful kid. Makes me wonder how much is from him, how much is our parenting, and how much is an interaction of the two.

Tim and I aren't perfect parents (Ethan and I are having some chips for arvo tea) But I'd like to think we are pretty good ones.

The big fear I

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[tigerweave]

Chips for arvo tea, you rebel mum you!

That's what I've been told to. The bond between the parents and the child is really really really important. He sounds very sweet about the self-settling thing :-)

[holdon2dreams]

Hun....I can see from pictures that he has developed an exceptionally healthy bond with you and Tim. He's just so wonderfully well adjusted and special and you've done and will continue to do such an amazing job.

The fact that he can feel okay about being sad about cheese and snuggle up to mum when he's all snotty and sick and continues to do it...is just exceptional.

Let's just put it this way...I remember being three maybe? And climbing onto my mothers lap four separate times and her not even acknowledging me except to put me out of her lap...and if I'd cried or been sad about cheese...omg I would a) have been yelled at or made to view starving children that my parents were 'helping' and it probably would have been held against me forever.

The only thing you need to know about parenting 100% is that you care...100% and you do...Both of you do.
All the other 'mistakes' that get made, children can handle...they're pretty resilient after all.

[peacefullyme]

Interestingly, when my FIL told us the news yesterday, Ethan gave Tim a back rub then snuggled (and slept) in Grandpa's arms. He was quite empathetic which surprised me. I think that's a good sign...

[peacefullyme]

We have a policy where if someone asks for a hug you stop and give a hug...Tim and Ethan both need hugs. So I've made it a family...rule, that you can always have a cuddle

[peacefullyme]

...immediate family not the extended. And if you don't feel comfortable, that's OK. The rule is more for if the kids ask for a hug