Comments | pence: on books and general

pence

on books and general

Sep 19, 2005 00:20

It feels like a ring has tightened around my head. I think it’s from starring too much in the pages of the book. My eyes are all tingly for the same reasons. “The Time Traveler’s Wife” is the current choice for the pass time. A science fiction meet “Great Expectation” and a tender love story come out of this unusual engagement. An idolized ( Read more... )

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phreephall September 19 2005, 14:46:19 UTC

i think what you said makes sense... actually what I'm trying to say is I *hope* you're right, regarding love (or finding it) taking time.
=)

g_the_curious September 19 2005, 20:00:02 UTC

I think you've gotten it wrong. My opinion is that you're confusing emotional and physical lust & desire with "love." I contend that love is constant--desire is what waxes and wanes depending on the time spent together ( ... )

pence September 19 2005, 21:59:00 UTC

George, with all due respect, why do you use the term ‘you are wrong’ so often? My life experiences shape my views, define the meaning of words. How can you be in a position to quickly erase the meaning one attributes to things? Really, this is not the first time you’ve done it. Debate is a good thing and all but do choose your topics or better yet your mannerism. The first statement ‘You are wrong’ really puts me off to even continue the discussion. First of all how do you know that I am wrong? You haven’t experienced the Love you’re talking about it or otherwise you would be with your Love right this second. And second, you have not experienced my experiences. And they do count for something, even if it’s for a mere fact that I have about four more years of experiences and twice that number of relationships ( ... )

g_the_curious September 19 2005, 22:22:57 UTC

And with all due respect chica, I didn't say "You are wrong." I said I "think" you are wrong. Further, I prefaced the second sentence with "My opinion is". These two are critical in placing what I wrote in the context of my opinion, not in some absolutism that states you are unequivocally wrong.

But... g_the_curious September 19 2005, 22:40:55 UTC

...in hindsight, I can see how my writing style could be offensive. You wouldn't be the first to take offense or to think that I was disrespectful to a point of view and what not.

Just know that I highly value your intelligence and experiences and it wasn't my intent to belittle any of that. If I didn't value your point of view I wouldn't have invested as much effort as I have in getting to know you. I'm sorry if my respect for your opintion wasn't accurately reflected in my comment.

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books and general chiccaloca September 19 2005, 21:31:28 UTC

hmmm! that is a tough one....i definitely agree with your statement: Love is too fragile to be spoiled by feeding too much time into it ( ... )

Re: books and general pence September 19 2005, 22:00:54 UTC

we're thinking same thoughts!

branwen September 20 2005, 05:36:34 UTC

I think that you definitely need to renew romantic love. And spending time away is good in a few different ways. One is being away from the person, and missing them, and feeling the contrast so that you don't get too used to being around them that you cease to remember fully just how wonderful it really is. Another way that being away sometimes is good is that it gives you some new experiences by yourself, and in that way helps you to keep contributing something new to the relationship. And getting away like that could mean putting interest in what you do, individually. Getting involved in things by yourself feeds you as a person, and makes you feel more whole in a relationship. Likewise, taking time alone, to just spend time doing not much at all is good, too. Where you can just sit alone with your thoughts sometimes. I know that Lev didn't get enough of that kind of time when I was living with him. It was pretty overwhelming for him back then, juggling school, work, and me when I didn't have my own fulfilling life. So yeah, I think ( ... )

pence September 20 2005, 14:05:42 UTC

I’ve always knew the above thought is inescapable once you are in a relationship and this book reminded me about it once again. I hear what you’re saying about having your own full life before you can complete someone else’s. One word you’ve used describes nicely the entire subject: contrast. Much like we do not notice how are loved ones age we notice it immediately if we go away for a period. Without contrast, we fail to notice. And what is more pathetic then unnoticed romantic love.