i wish you well and happy with your future. i am sorry for your sadness. i've never wanted children (i have plenty of cats tho!), but i know that to want them and not have them is a heartbreak. i hope you will be able to find a way to be happy again. life is too precious to give up on (altho i have done that a time or two for different reasons, myself.) my writing has always been my escape, my way to think about something i can manage and control and create a happy ending for. however, my fire for bbm has smoldered low and i'm not sure if i have it in me to write much more jack and ennis either. you might want to look around for new inspiration to give you a fresh burst of enthusiasm. it won't fix the problems or disappointments in your life, but it's nice to have something special to think about.
thoughts with youjoetheoneOctober 27 2010, 17:38:57 UTC
May whatever joys come your way I will hope and pray. This world of Brokeback got me good for a different reason. I will not have children either due to being gay some say but I was a foster father for 13 glorious years and in a way still am because even though my two girls are no longer mine by order of the state they are mine in the fact they send me fathers day cards and well we are a family. So adopting or fostering in my book is family and no matter if not blood they are mine and I would lay my life down for those two girls in a heart beat. I guess I had to come to terms a long time ago that was one thing I would miss out on was children but low and behold when I least expected it those two wonderful ladies came into my life at age 7 and 9 and they are both in their late twenties and their children call me grandpa. Something I don't like to hear at 46 but oh I would not trade one moment of it. So if adoption is in your future embrace it because what makes a family is love and you have more then enough love for whatever
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Sorry that you are feeling sad for now but got to agree with Joe.
Whether by natural birth, foster or adoption, when your are ready for a child to come into your life that child will be YOUR child. Through it all -the late nights, the first day of school withdrawal pains, the construction paper mother's day cards, parental angst, middle school peer pressure, teenage rebellion, high school graduation- that child-YOUR child-will be a reflection of you and your husband's love and guidance.
Yes, this is a sad time for you AND your husband. Please DON'T think any less of yourself because things haven't gone the way society and others think it SUPPOSED to be-
YOU can make your dreams come true!
So, when you're ready, take that next step- There's too much love in you not to...
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good luck and big hugs to you. s.
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wish you all the best
Paula
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Whether by natural birth, foster or adoption, when your are ready for a child to come into your life that child will be YOUR child. Through it all -the late nights, the first day of school withdrawal pains, the construction paper mother's day cards, parental angst, middle school peer pressure, teenage rebellion, high school graduation- that child-YOUR child-will be a reflection of you and your husband's love and guidance.
Yes, this is a sad time for you AND your husband. Please DON'T think any less of yourself because things haven't gone the way society and others think it SUPPOSED to be-
YOU can make your dreams come true!
So, when you're ready, take that next step- There's too much love in you not to...
Blessings and best wishes to you.
D
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