I am pissed!!!

[philnikki]

So today, my MIL K's sister offered to stay with Ava since my husband apparently refuses to take a full day off of work to care for his sick child. Anyway -- she had a few questions about whether or not to give Ava some motrin at noon and what she should do if she wouldn't sleep and what she should try to give her to eat (even though I specifically

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[mrs_natalie]

I would be so PO'ed. You are totally right. While MIL K might know what the right dose would be for a child As age she doesn't know what she had that morning etc.

[philnikki]

Thanks. That is my thought exactly!

Thank you!

[cr8zyforaf]

I would be FURIOUS..it shows a blatant lack of respect for you, IMO.

Asshats.

[philnikki]

Yeah I agree. You obviously have very similar MIL issues, so I feel like you understand this situation better than anybody. And it is just another exhibition of her lack of respect for me. So beyond frustrating.

[amwilson615]

I'd imagine that maybe she was just more comfortable calling MIL K. I usually write everything down when I leave the kids with someone. I do, think that Kathleen should've checked with you just to confirm what she thought, though. I agree with you that you should've been consulted in some manner--maybe just a quick call by MIL K. The lady calling her wouldn't upset me. And, most likely, MIL K giving instructions wouldn't bother me either. I think you are a tad sensitive in that area--and whatever that's just how it is. In regards to if she had been on other meds, etc, very good point and very valid.

[philnikki]

Well, its not MIL K's place to give out advice on what to do with my daughter with respect to medication. Period. ESPECIALLY when her sister was already instructed by me as to what to do. I just think its a total respect thing and its not just that I am being sensitive, its that Kathleen does this to me ALL the time. When I am at her house she freaking breaks a sweat running to get Ava in the middle of the night before I do. Its a total control thing with her, and it pisses me off. If someone had administered meds to one of her kids without asking her first you better believe there would be hell to pay. I am to the point where I am ready to just take the damn days off of work if I can't be respected enough to even consult with this stuff. I just don't find it cool in the slightest.

As far as whether or not I am too sensitive about it, I may be, but I know it pisses you off when Derrick does things with Avery and doesn't consult you about it and I feel like its the same thing with me. Its just respect.

[amwilson615]

Well, I feel like not giving an opinion anymore when you ask for it. I can just feel the anger coming through on your post. And, it has nothing to do with Derick or me. I wasn't the one asking for opinions.
I never said that it wasn't a control issue or that all of this doesn't go on. I was responding to this particular issue. So, nevermind.

[philnikki]

Well, I am really very sorry that you feel that way. I was venting, and after reading my entry and I guess I did ask for opinions, when to be honest, I didn't want to hear them. I just needed to vent. So that was my bad for asking

[mickey_and_b]

Nope I'm on your side, you are totally right and I would be just as pissed as you are! It just doesn't make sense to me why not just call you?

[philnikki]

Thanks, I am glad that you see why I would so mad. She had my numbers. The reason she said that she didn't call me was she didn't want to be bother me at work and she had Kathleen's numbers. Kathleen was also at work, so it just doesn't even make sense.

[leftrightrepeat]

It boils down to one thing, and one thing only - RESPECT (do you want me to break out into song???).. And in this case, the lack thereof. I don't care how this whole thing went down, SOMEONE should have called you regarding giving Ava meds. End of story. God I would be bullshit.. Let me know if you need anything :)

[philnikki]

Thanks Meaghan! And yes, I would like you to break into song :)

I just wish I wouldn't constantly feel like she is circumventing me all the time. And with giving her meds its the final straw in my mind. I mean, what happens next? She feels that its ok for her to take Ava from daycare without asking? She used to sign Phil's permission slips for school (he is her step son) and also cut his hair and gave him medication quite a few times without asking his mom. And wouldn't ya know that MIL B (Phil real mom) always has asked me before giving Ava any additional medication outside of what I have instructed. Always. So yeah, its absolutely a respect thing.