question...

[phn]

"there's someone out there for everyone..."a saying that i've heard countless times, and i'm sure you have, too. speaking with a friend of mine earlier tonight, i actually gave it some thought for the first time. yes, i do think that there's someone out there for everyone, but here's my question

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[extine]

I think so. That person wouldn't be meant for you if you weren't meant for him/her. :P

[amoristique]

i feel the same way.

[phn]

okay, let's say there's a dude who you think is the embodiment of everything you would ever need in a significant other, and there's absolutely no doubt about it (for arguement's sake). you have your own personal reasons for believing he's 'the one'. this dude, however, could have a totally different list of things that he looks for in a girl.

are you saying that it's not possible that you are NOT the embodiment of what HE defines as 'the one'?

[extine]

I'm in that position right now actually. I was really interested in someone who I thought "embodied" what I want in a guy but I don't think he feels the same way.

So no I don't think he's the one for me because if he was, he would feel the same way.

That last sentence confuses me a tad (I'm sleep deprived) so I'm not sure I answered your question appropriately. =X

[slugger]

i don't believe in it. relationships are about compromise and effort.

fact: nobody is perfect. thus, are you willing to accept the flaws in the other person? = compromise.
fact: relationships take work. are the compromises you've made worth the work it takes to keep the relationship going? = effort.

the theory of 1 guy for 1 girl is an idea that hopeless romantics need to feel like their relationship is extraordinary. while it's a great thought to have, it's unrealistic and they set themselves up for trouble when they meet another person who can generate the same emotions. and this is why i believe people in loving relationships cheat.

[phn]

these are excellent points. but to play devil's advocate...

compromise and effort. yes, i agree with you in that relationships NEED these two things in order for the relationship to work. but in the case of compromise, what if the flaws in one person are so small (and perhaps even insignificant) in one's eyes that it makes it easy for them to make those compromises. and in the case of effort, what if two people just click really well? and what if they click so well that this so-called 'work' to build a relationship doesn't even feel like work at all? if someone was currently in a relationship that fits the situation i just described, would it not be 'safe' to say that their significant other was 'the one'?

"while it's a great thought to have, it's unrealistic..."

yes, many would agree with you here, but just because it may be unrealistic, it does not mean that it can't happen. the chances of a meteor landing on your house are 1 in 182,138,880,000,000. highly unrealistic, but there's still a chance.

[slugger]

well...to quote a man that has had much success with the ladies.

Shake that thing Miss Kana Kana
Shake that thing Miss Annabella
Shake that thing yan Donna Donna
Jodi and Beretta.

- sean paul -