Matt's Manifesto

[phoenix924]

Nice Guys Finish Last

Ever since my introduction to this planet, I have been led to believe that a good personality and a kind heart would get me everywhere in life. Unfortunately, that is simply not that case. Any time I meet a girl, she seems to tell me all about how my gender generally consists of stupid, pig headed, lying, selfish, players

Comments

[yaybritsakitty]

NICE GIRLS FINISH RIGHT ALONGSIDE THEM!!!
:-*!!!!!!!!!!

[uebwrsoul]

no, no...you're definetly ahead of us.

[yaybritsakitty]

I disagree. I'm a nice girl. I'm nice to EVERYONE. I'm a virgin, too. Which means guys pretty much won't give me the time of day, because I'm really stubborn when it comes to my sexuality. Although I'm still a very sexual, sensual, loving, affectionate girl, I won't give up the sex, so guys don't usually want to get involved with me. I'm also not a stick figure, I'm white, and I don't go tanning so fucking much that I look like a full blood Cuban, and I cover myself when I go out in the cold. I'm a doormat, except when it comes to giving up the v card. And you know what? I'm every guy's best friend. I've had two serious boyfriends. One shoved me up against a wall and attempted to rape me, and the other is the only guy I know that didn't automatically disqualify me as a lover just because I wasn't willing to have sex. So actually no, I'm not ahead of you, I'm right there with you, if not behind you...

[uebwrsoul]

Strong and interesting argument. I respect your views but I do have to still disagree with you. This might sound rude, but if anything I think what you just said may just prove Matt's writing even stronger. To me it sounds simply like you are going for the wrong guys. You desribed yourself as a wondeful young lady but again it goes back to being involved with jerks. Matt or myself, along with other "nice guys" would not view or treat you like that. Do not get me wrong, I am not accusing you of anything and I apologize on behalf of my gender for any wrong done to you. These things that happened to you are not your fault. It's just the irony we call life.

[cyanide_i_drank]

this is very very very sad. and what makes it sad is that its true. i wish i could find myself a nice guy, because honestly, i love "bad boys", but they are too much. too much drama. i know theres a nice girl out there for you matt. i mean come on, not all girls want a bad boy. im a living example. if i were 2 years older and in RI, id have a fat crush on you. im sorry you had to write an essay about something so depressing.

[phoenix924]

oh I didnt have to, i chose the topic.

[warriorofthesea]

sometimes you girls need something deeper than nice. Stop being a "nice guy" and be you. You label yourself...you get lost in the label.

[warriorofthesea]

haha...cross out the "you"...I know your not a girl...just really tired, forgot my meds and A.D.D.

[phoenix924]

hahah whats the big idea, are u calling a me a woman?! haha :oP

I hate labels, its not about labels, im being me... i just happen to be a nice guy which sucks for me.

[warriorofthesea]

and yet you have labeled yourself.

No offense, for what I'm about to say...but I was talking this over with a friend of mine earlier. Some guys who straight up say they're nice guys turn out to be assholes. Either lying, or trying to impress or whatever... What I'm saying is, its cool to be polite and sweet, but you gotta give em sometime deeper to look at than your nice guy exterior. Stop saying you're nice guy and start saying you're Matt! :-p

[beckstar33]

You're 19. You need to get off of the instant gratification train and understand that all things come in due time. We talk about this all the time and we talk about paitence and about how you have none. Seriously, you can't expect everything to happen when you want it to happen and you can't expect to get everything you want when you want it. You need to be proud of who you are instead of tearing yourself down. You need to be proud that you have been brought up to treat girls the way that you do and you need to be proud that you aren't like those other "jerk" or "asshole" guys. Not for nothing Matt, but overall general logic basically proves that you being who you are, you wouldn't want the type of girl who wants to be with an asshole kinda guy. Don't give me grief by saying that all girls want that or go for that because that is a steaming pile of bullshit. If you want to talk about what always happens to you, you find a girl who is going to walk on you each and everytime that you tend to go for someone. You always give me

[uebwrsoul]

"I love you Matt but I constantly feel like I am fighting the same battles with you."

Oh man, I don't think I've agreed with a statement more then the time Michelle said "I hate My Super Sweet 16"

[ztahphish]

i hate to admit it, but what you said is true. girls only want "nice guys" as friends because then they can go to them and bitch about how badly their "bad boys" boyfriends treated them. they rest their emotional baggages on you. they go to you when things don't go their way. they cry to you when the bad boys are mean to them... because you always welcome them with open arms, you always make them feel better, and you are WAY TO NICE to be deserving something like that.

i am completely guilty of that. Justin is an asshole, but i can't get him out of my head. when there are so many more "nice guys" out there that would treat me right and be so good to me and make me happy... you are still young though. we girls need to grow up too.... and when girls finally mature they will realize how stupid they were to overlook good guys like you, but by then it might be too late.

[prettygirl2424]

*hugs for you Candice* Grrrrrrrr to Justin's everywhere!!!

[ztahphish]

aww thanks girl!