Something that is bugging me
So, I have to move in less than six weeks. I did agree to a place, but after meeting with the house owner on Friday, my instincts are screaming at me to back out.
I've got so many concerns about this guy. I had concerns prior to meeting with him.
The first thing he said to me when I met with him on Friday was that he thought the house wouldn't suit me. One, because it has a fire. I'm not sure what it's called in the US, but it's not an open fireplace. It's sort of like a stove, but not. The last time I lived where there was a fireplace like that was about 25 years ago, and I had nothing to do with it. My flatmate at the time dealt with it.
Where I'm living now, the place has a heat pump. But I've only lived here for three months and most of the places I've lived in have had no heating other than the heating appliances I've used (heater, electric blanket). I'm used to places being cold.
His second worry is that it's a three bedroom house and I'm going to be there on my own.
Then he starts showing me the outside, asking if I'm okay with spraying weedkiller, and using a ladder to get up on the roof to clean out the gutters if they get blocked. I get the general feeling he isn't confident with this and says straight out that 'you need a man'. Like, excuse me? I've been on my own for 30 years. Maybe I haven't lived in an actual house where I've had to do general maintenance but it's not like I don't know what to do. Or can't pick up a phone and call someone.
And surely it's my business whether I use the fire or not. I mean, it might be enclosed and all that, but I'm not going to go to work for eight hours a day and leave the fire going!
He's apparently supposed to be moving to work and live somewhere else and it's supposed to be a permanent move. Yet he says he has to come back a couple of times a year. Which kind of makes me feel like he's going to be micro-managing. He is renting out the place through a real estate property manager. Surely he should just leave it up to the property manager to ... I don't know, manage the tenancy? Why does he even have to be involved in my side of things?
I'm supposed to sign the tenancy agreement on Wednesday. The worst part is, there are no other places around. I have to be out by November because the owner of the unit I'm in now wants to live in it. I get that things happen, but this is worrying me. If I back out, I'll have nowhere else to go. There is a major housing shortage here. And no, living with the parents is just not an option. For one, they're at least 50kms away, and two, there's no room in their place for me.
I've come to the realisation that I just don't trust people. I've been hurt so many times by people I thought I could trust, or let down by them, that I'm now wondering if all these worries are because I just don't trust the guy. And maybe I'm reading too much into it.
I haven't even started packing anything.
I've got so many concerns about this guy. I had concerns prior to meeting with him.
The first thing he said to me when I met with him on Friday was that he thought the house wouldn't suit me. One, because it has a fire. I'm not sure what it's called in the US, but it's not an open fireplace. It's sort of like a stove, but not. The last time I lived where there was a fireplace like that was about 25 years ago, and I had nothing to do with it. My flatmate at the time dealt with it.
Where I'm living now, the place has a heat pump. But I've only lived here for three months and most of the places I've lived in have had no heating other than the heating appliances I've used (heater, electric blanket). I'm used to places being cold.
His second worry is that it's a three bedroom house and I'm going to be there on my own.
Then he starts showing me the outside, asking if I'm okay with spraying weedkiller, and using a ladder to get up on the roof to clean out the gutters if they get blocked. I get the general feeling he isn't confident with this and says straight out that 'you need a man'. Like, excuse me? I've been on my own for 30 years. Maybe I haven't lived in an actual house where I've had to do general maintenance but it's not like I don't know what to do. Or can't pick up a phone and call someone.
And surely it's my business whether I use the fire or not. I mean, it might be enclosed and all that, but I'm not going to go to work for eight hours a day and leave the fire going!
He's apparently supposed to be moving to work and live somewhere else and it's supposed to be a permanent move. Yet he says he has to come back a couple of times a year. Which kind of makes me feel like he's going to be micro-managing. He is renting out the place through a real estate property manager. Surely he should just leave it up to the property manager to ... I don't know, manage the tenancy? Why does he even have to be involved in my side of things?
I'm supposed to sign the tenancy agreement on Wednesday. The worst part is, there are no other places around. I have to be out by November because the owner of the unit I'm in now wants to live in it. I get that things happen, but this is worrying me. If I back out, I'll have nowhere else to go. There is a major housing shortage here. And no, living with the parents is just not an option. For one, they're at least 50kms away, and two, there's no room in their place for me.
I've come to the realisation that I just don't trust people. I've been hurt so many times by people I thought I could trust, or let down by them, that I'm now wondering if all these worries are because I just don't trust the guy. And maybe I'm reading too much into it.
I haven't even started packing anything.