Babies!!

[phoenixredux]

Seems like I'm surrounded by pregnant people and fresh new babies. My co-worker's wife is two days past due, and there's a lot of Baby Rabies going around. So I think it's time for a poll. Sorry if this triggers issues for anybody, I'm not trying to bring you down. Tell me to fuck off in the comments if you'd like. For the rest of you, please tell

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Done with that.

[gleckia]

I abosolutely love babies!!! Babies, babies, babies!!! I will hold, coo at, take care of, burp, bathe, change and pace with floor with babies.

I am simply done having babies. I like being able to give them back to their parents.

[terry31415]

Our triad got the baby bug a few years ago--we were making all sorts of plans about what needed to be done first. Thankfully, we didn't rush into it, and I was the first one who snapped out of it.

I know lots of people who are doing a fine job of raising wonderful kids (that I like, in small doses).

However, I (we) have decided to explore a lifetime story that doesn't include kids. Both of the men in our triad have had a vasectomy, and we are having a good time exploring the child-free lifestyle.

[jwright_71673]

Say, I just joined the vasectomy club; mind if I ask how long it took for you to recover? I had mine last Friday and I still don't feel up to doing a whole lot. Not pain really, just general discomfort.

[terry31415]

Well, I was "fully functional" after a few weeks, but I still had minor pain for a few months after the surgery. I'm happy to report that I don't have any pain at all now, and I'm glad I did it.

Congratulations on joining the V-club! :-)

[eyelid]

I always want a baby. But I cannot have one without assistance.

we are diligently saving for the assistance and I know when we'll go into it. It's hard though.

[phoenixredux]

You have a beautiful family, too. You guys are really great. I hope the extra effort pays off quickly.

[eyelid]

It's not as bad this time around because I have two kids and because I know IVF can work for us. But it's still hard. I can't help resenting people who can have kids easily... it's basically impossible not to get bitter.

[soylentmean]

I would love to have a baby (and go through pregnancy), but lack the plumbing to do so.

I do have trouble with jealousy sometimes - sokay has perfectly functional plumbing (afaik), and wants to have babies... but vehemently doesn't want to produce one herself. It is hard not to feel like life hasn't given me the short end of the stick. :(

[phoenixredux]

That sucks. I mean, we live in The Future and stuff. Seems by now, like they should be able to extract some stem cells, grow some girl-plumbing in a lab from your own DNA, and bang! You're all properly equipped. Maybe some day, they will. Meanwhile, that's got to be really hard for you.

::hug::

[eyelid]

what problems are there with your plumbing?

[soylentmean]

It's a long complicated story, but the short of it is that I don't have any. :\

[lonely_doll]

I always assumed that I'd want kids at some point, mostly because when you're in your twenties everyone tells you that you will. But I think that deep down inside, I knew it wasn't really what I wanted. I ended up breaking up my first marriage largely because he wanted kids and as I got older I just kept not wanting them (there were other issues, but that was the one that just couldn't be fixed).

I think that, if we lived in a time or place where I didn't have the option to be child-free, I'd probably make the best of it and I'm sure I'd love my kids and I even think I'd be a reasonably good parent. But it would never be my first choice. I'm very grateful to live in a time and place where I get that choice.