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[phredthebaker]

So if a friend of yours gets engaged two months after you and then decides to use the same reception hall as you for their wedding a month before you get married do you have a right to be upset with that (with them knowing full well that your reception was there)? Just curious.

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[altarr]

who?

and yes you do.

[altarr]

it all depends on the circles involved as well

[phredthebaker]

It's a girl Jess and I went to college with. Closer to Jess than to me but we're still invited to the wedding. I would just hate to partake in a ceremony 4 weeks before my own wedding and be self-conscious at the type of day I'm trying to provide for my family and friends. I don't ever want to compare weddings but I think if someone had the same hall as me I would be forced to.

[altarr]

see, it isnt as big a deal because of the limited cross circle of attendees. plus, I think its easier going second as you have a chance to say "we did a better job". You may be able to pick up on things you could do better with the same space...what worked, what didnt etc. It may be a "blessing" in disguise...you never know. PLUS, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. think mr. clean and kenny.

[evilkrumpis]

Who the fuck cares? Quite frankly if you're merging two independant lives together I think there would be much more important things to worry about than who had what reception where or who took a shit on casey's door step last night

[keign1999]

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"who took a shit on casey's door step last night"

I'm quite sure he knew that was you.

[phredthebaker]

You'd think so but that's really all I have to worry about.

[altarr]

well. wait till it gets closer, you wont believe what there really is to worry about. I highly suggest an independant third party to babysit you on that special day...someone who isnt in the wedding party....i was ALL over the place and my only comfort that day with respect to my duties was knowing that you and bill were going to make sure the slideshow was going to work. If I had guarantees like that about all the other stuff (like getting there on-time.....chris....) I would have been a lot more comfortable....

[divaangel629]

I would be BS too.. but it is your day and everyone's is different and I really don't think anyone will compare the two! Especially if it's just a small portion of your guest list that crosses over. And like Casey said... this is a dry run for your wedding. You get see mistakes they make and you won't have to make the same ones... keep the mental notebook wide open that day!