To those I live with:

[phuphuphnik]

It isn't your always being up at night with the constant din of the TV bugging my wife It isn't you always being tired and complaining that you are the only one doing the dishes. It isn't your bad knees that make you grumpy with my kids. Really, it isn't

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[theaspins]

3 kids? Are you including yourself in that count then?
And what kind of smoking do you mean? Some sort of tobacco or are you thinking of setting yourself on fire again?
I love you, and I'm sorry your having a hard time. I hope I didn't cause too much of it.

[tanac]

Thanks, I was worried I missed a kid somewhere along the way...

Chris: Living with other people is hard, and it's harder when they're a) family so that b) you're constrained from kicking them quite so hard in the ass as they might need. It's certainly a situation I couldn't handle with any kind of grace or diplomacy, and I think (from what I've seen from a distance) that you're managing to do it with a good chunk of both, which I really admire.

(you already know that living in chronic pain sucks, and living with chronic pain that has a useless label (no good treatment, and no cure) sucks even harder. But it doesn't give a free pass to make everyone around you miserable as well (speaking as someone who gets her ass handed to her by the person she lives with on a regular basis when she's being a bitch))

*hugs*

[dave_ifversen]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again - once you're on your own, if you have any choice in the matter, never live in the same house with your parents/inlaws. My mother-in-law, who lives with us because she is unable to live alone and can't afford any kind of long term care, regularly drives me around the bend. I understand that the dementia means she can't help it, but that doesn't make it any easier. Far, far better to find two houses close to/next to each other so you can keep an eye on them, or find someplace with a built-in inlaw apartment. Whatever it takes so everyone has their own living space but are close enough to have the family support network conveniently in place. (There's a lot to be said for the Great Smials in Tookland...)