I owe you a response on this on - and the previous promised reply.. I hope to have some time tomorrow and will try to reply this weekend. :) hang in there.
First thing is first. He loves you Aubs and it sounds like he has already agreed to not smoke if you dont like it. I know where you are coming from when you went and bought him a pipe. You did it because you knew he would enjoy it but now it has turned into an item of discomfort. One thing that concerns me is the fact that you mention a couple of times that he only does it on special occasions, 3-4 times a year but it has been a week and he has smoked it 3 times! If it is making you cry and upset you need to just be honest and let him know that you have changed your mind about his smoking and hope that he would still agree to stop. The tattoo is one that you CAN compromise on. Suggest that he gets a tattoo on leather and put on a jacket or bracelet. Then decide on a time-line where if he still feels like he wants the tattoo allow him to get it. I dont know if any of this will help but I know that being honest and communicate is necessary to be happy!
Anyway.. first, it sounds to me like you had some inkling of some of his habits before marriage. So knowing that he was on his best behavior while courting you and now demonstrating his true self shouldn't come as a complete surprise.
second, I think you're learning why all those years in primary/YW you were taught not to date non-members. I know that sounds more frank than I mean it, but I'll explain.
If you married your husband because you truly love him - then you may need to overlook some of these bad habits. However, not embrace or even tolerate them. I'll explain that too
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Anyway.. first, it sounds to me like you had some inkling of some of his habits before marriage. So knowing that he was on his best behavior while courting you and now demonstrating his true self shouldn't come as a complete surprise.
second, I think you're learning why all those years in primary/YW you were taught not to date non-members. I know that sounds more frank than I mean it, but I'll explain.
If you married your husband because you truly love him - then you may need to overlook some of these bad habits. However, not embrace or even tolerate them. I'll explain that too ( ... )
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