Needs

[piglette3]

Have you ever noticed how needy some people are? And have you ever noticed how annoying it is, and how it's so draining that all you want to do is run away and hope you never become that person?

That's why, early in my life, I made a conscious decision that I would do whatever it took to not be that person. It turns out it's impossible.

We do have a

Comments

[branille]

In my opinion, you can be that person; however it's a lonely sort of life...

[piglette3]

I never understood how hard it was to live alone until I did it. It must be extra hard for you, being so far away from everything you used to be comfortable with. I'm sorry if I haven't kept in touch enough to support you through this. I'm finding that just talking to someone who cares about me helps a lot - they don't need answers to give or anything. I know we write (well, mostly you), but if you ever need to just talk, I think I understand why now...and I'll try to be better about calling back ;) I love you, you're one of my best friends. AND I'LL SEE YOU IN A WEEK!!!!! =D

[branille]

!!!!!!!!!

[melody1624]

Awesome post.

Thanks for understanding =p Yeah, need is kinda important. Its especially important where God is concerned - we DO need him. And accepting that and acknowleding how deep our need for him is that actually makes us fall more in love with him.

Now, with people, neediness has its limits. There's one thing in seeking to fulfill all your needs in a person vs. God. However, there are needs that people have that can be filled/helped by other people...and I believe God created us that way. That's why husbands need their wives, wives need their husbands, children need their mothers and fathers. Its healthy need...and it helps build relationships...and love...and commitment.

[piglette3]

Totally. I'm starting to understand the value of dependence overall.

With God, the only times I'm really living are the times that I'm scared to death and He has to do something to fix it. The days I can wake up and say "Okay I know I'm a lifeless vegetable unless you make sure I'm living" are the days that life is amazing and totally worth it.

With people, I'm also finding that the times you get closer and are actually able to meet each other's needs are when you humble yourself enough to make your needs known. It's a very scary and vulnerable situation.

But really, when you look at it in the big picture, if you can get God's part met by God himself, then the leftover neediness is just the right amount to drive relationships with other people without sucking them dry (which makes sense, since this is the part that was made for this).

It's all pretty neat to watch...except when it's happening to me ;) lol