Better, Faster, Stronger

[piratesforpedro]

Coming back to Kaplan has really helped me prepare for any education program that accepts me. My first class starts this Saturday and will meet weekly in Marietta. I've been practicing teaching to an empty room (or to Billy, who is only half listening as he plays WoW) and working up my timing and my presentation

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[nopantsjune]

I really wish that people didn't get ingrained with the "no living together before marriage" due to religious or other moral reasons. That's probably the main reason why 50% of them end. The problem is that living together doesn't = sex all the time. While things are more convenient, there are so many other things to deal with when living together (splitting bills, chores, etc) that the frequency of sex just doesn't go up as compared to living apart. It's so much fun to play house, too! Living with someone beforehand gives you time to figure out if you can live together and if you love each other enough to spend every day together. It's the BEST litmus test for a future together. It also lessens the shock of suddenly living with him after the major stress of the wedding. That's how Paul's and my getting married wasn't a huge scary step, it was just another wonderful and fun step in our relationship. I am so glad that you and the boy are getting closer! First you move in together, then you get a pet, and then you choose what color

[piratesforpedro]

It used to be a religious thing with me, but then I started to think about it as a "space" thing. Until it's as serious as marriage and golden rings, either person always has a space to retreat to. I think I'll still have space to retreat to even if he moved in. I believe that's what really good friends' couches are for. I doubt I'll need that option.

Also: yay tax break!

[nopantsjune]

I totally get the space concept. Paul and I are attached at the hip and we're gross like that and he's let me decorate the apartment so it looks like only I live there, but I know if he or I needed some space, wone of us could hole up in the bedroom, or even remove one partner from the domicile for an agreed amount of time (either him or you). I find taking a drive around 9a alone with my music on is very relaxing. I know that Haughtlanta (like that?) had terrible roads, though, so I don't know about that.

Also, the bathroom is a great place to girlify to make your own space. It's amazing what a fluffy candle can do to the place you poop.

[trowizilla]

Even though me moving in with Matt was largely a practicality issue (since I didn't want to be stuck in a new state with the responsibility of my own lease in case we didn't work out), I absolutely love living with him. It's just... comfortable, I guess; there's no worries about having to leave in the morning, no issues with "stuff creep" (where one person's belongings slowly migrate into the other person's apartment), no need for separate expenses. Plus, even when I'm not feeling social, it's nice to know that he's in the next room.

And yeah, sometimes we fight and someone has to go for a long walk, but I like walks anyway.

[caterwauling_ak]

I'm glad to hear that everything is going well for you and congrats on the boy news!

I agree wholeheartedly with what Ashwee said about living together before marriage - there's just no other way to know whether two people work well together unless they experience life together first. I split my time between my folks' house and Shaun's place so much that both places feel a bit like home but I still miss having my own place.

I look forward to taking a trip up to Georguh sometime in the next couple of months - I have a ton of vacation hours I need to use...