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Jul 08, 2005 15:16

I'm so fucking pathetic, falling to literal pieces over something like this. I'm pathetic, and if you disagree, then you are a fucking lier ( Read more... )

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rewind_eden July 8 2005, 21:36:19 UTC

I think she'll come around. She's a great girl, probably just a little shy and unsure of how to proceed and what to do to make you feel good, so try talking to her about it and see what she is comfortable with doing and give her advice on what you'd like to see her do. Good luck you two. ^_^

pissingfactory July 8 2005, 21:46:48 UTC

I've done all of that before, and all it does is make her feel inadiquate and bring out little miss "I'm a horrible girlfriend and you deserve better so just break up with me already"... yeah, it pisses me off too. I'm trying to fucking help her and all she can do is whine about how bad she is at it. I need to be invisible for a while.

rewind_eden July 8 2005, 21:50:02 UTC

Try letting her know she's not a horrible girlfriend and that you care about her, but there are things she could do differently. (for example, run up and kiss you when she sees you) and give her little examples of stuff she could do and let her know you're not going to think she's weird or something for doing those things and that they will be returned equally with love as well.

pissingfactory July 8 2005, 23:02:46 UTC

once again, I've done it before, but all it seems to do is make her feel bad for not doing it before. it's so fucking frustrating that people think Katie and Thomas have such a perfect relationship, when Katie and Thomas barely have a relationship.

jediashness July 8 2005, 22:02:22 UTC

Now, I don't really know anything about you two, but I was exactly the same with my boyfriend at first. He was my first boyfriend, and instigating anything terrified the hell out me. Eventually, I got over it, but only with reassurances from my boyfriend that he would be patient with me. Just be sure that you're patient with her. Getting frustrated about it will only make it worse. Just reassure her that you love her and she's not a horrible girlfriend. I agree with the commenter above me, as well. Don't pressure her, but just let her know that she should be comfortable with you. Good luck!

pissingfactory July 8 2005, 22:57:43 UTC

I am patient with her, I do tell her that she's not a horrible girlfriend, but it rarely helps. She has this button in her head that convinces her that everything positive she hears about herself is not true. She's said she's comfortable with me many times, but nothing ever changes

cnpdc July 9 2005, 07:55:22 UTC

You have no freaking idea how much I sympathize with you. Halleluja, at least I'm not the only one....I've had this same discussion with Megan a million times, particularly last night. She's told me she'll change as well, time will tell if that's going to happen or not. God bless and good luck. I'm just as confused as you.