Ugh. That's seriously low, that he is trying to guilt Jesse & his sis by pretending to be their mother emailing from the grave. I also don't really understand what costs he incurred? I mean, if you took care of the cremation & burial, what else did he spend money on? What a jerk.
Oh, he spent it on lots of things we knew she wouldn't want -- embalming, open-casket viewing, the like. If he'd left things to us, we'd have done what she'd wanted and not asked him to pay a dime. Since he lied to us -- and the funeral home we'd first gone to, telling the director he was her husband and so stopping us in our tracks while we were trying to make arrangements -- I don't really think we're responsible for the fiasco he created.
I know it's best not to engage him any further by responding to his idiocy, but I'd be tempted to reply to the emails by saying "OMG, mom, I'm so glad you got in touch with us from the grave- You won't believe what that ass of a boyfriend did...he claimed that you were married, insisted on embalming you against your wishes, etc."
There's an option to file a peace order, but I have a hard time believing Jesse will go for it. He just wants it to go away. Plus, then we'd have to have a hearing, and that would be horrible.
Also, by sending it through HER email, we can't really prove he did it, you know?
But we have kept records -- things he's mailed, and my writing here, really.
So far, it's all just sick blustering. The thing that I worry about is that he's really unstable -- a bipolar who often goes off his meds and has real drug and alcohol dependence issues. In his last letter, he said he'd been dry for a year. I'd like to think he still is, but this crap makes me think he's off the wagon again.
Jesus, sweetheart. I really hoped that one of the blessings you could take fom her death and all the sadness and screwed up emotions that brought with it, was him going away.
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If he'd left things to us, we'd have done what she'd wanted and not asked him to pay a dime. Since he lied to us -- and the funeral home we'd first gone to, telling the director he was her husband and so stopping us in our tracks while we were trying to make arrangements -- I don't really think we're responsible for the fiasco he created.
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I was also thinking if it was possible for someone to fall off the earth I'd give him a kick in the a$$ to get him started.
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Also, by sending it through HER email, we can't really prove he did it, you know?
But we have kept records -- things he's mailed, and my writing here, really.
So far, it's all just sick blustering. The thing that I worry about is that he's really unstable -- a bipolar who often goes off his meds and has real drug and alcohol dependence issues. In his last letter, he said he'd been dry for a year. I'd like to think he still is, but this crap makes me think he's off the wagon again.
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I'm really sorry to hear about this.
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